Posted on 09/29/2008 7:12:11 PM PDT by Publius804
Nice Guys Don’t Have to Finish Last
Posted By Brett On September 28, 2008 @ 8:26 pm
Oftentimes, when a man sees yet another bombshell on the arm of a dude who from all appearances is a complete d-bag, he is compelled to shake his fist at the sky and wonder if there is any justice in the world. “What does she see in him?” he asks in exasperation.
The poser of this question is often a self-proclaimed “nice guy” who doesn’t understand why men of his breed so often seem to finish last while the moronic tools of the world get the girl. To him it seems that his niceness is at the root of the problem, somehow repelling women who inexplicably prefer to date jerks. But the problem is not that this man is a nice guy, but that he’s allowed niceness to travel down the slippery slope into weinerdom.
Too many men use their niceness as a cover for the fact that they’re in fact insecure. It’s this lack of confidence and swagger that kills their chances with the ladies, not their well-mannered ways. Men often set up a false dichotomy. You can either be an arrogant jack ass or a demure nice guy. But there is a middle a ground, the combination women are truly looking for: the extremely confident gentlemen.
(Excerpt) Read more at artofmanliness.com ...
Well
I am a guy so don’t know how helpful my views are but it make sense... I am a nice guy and have always sucked with women. But one day I just stopped trying so hard and was just a more confident version of myself and almost instantly met my soul mate who is just incredible and absolutely gorgeous... don’t give up but don’t try too hard either
the nice guys are picking the wrong women, the same way these women are picking the wrong men. A nice guy is best to not waste his time on women that haven’t experienced enough shallow jerks yet.
Leaving the author’s premise aside for a moment (the excerpt looks promising), I might add that a lot of those “bombshells” ain’t worth having.
It would be nice, yes.
I’ve talked to many so-called nice guys that are jerks and/or are picking women based on superficial reasons (or out of their league). If I had a guy exclaim to me that he was a nice guy, I’d run. My husband doesn’t call himself a nice guy, but he is. He’s confident in himself.
You got that right brother.
You don’t have to be a jerk not to be a limp-wristed pushover.
Step 1 is be confident.
Step 2 is recognize that women are ridiculous creatures...they can be intelligent, accomplished etc, but still silly little girls once you start teasing them. (So talk with them until you find yourself one as smart as a whip, and then tease her relentlessly!)
Putting every attractive girl on a pedestal will scream desperation and get you nowhere. Swinging the other way and treating them like dirt will get you somewhere, but only with girls who have no confidence. Win-win is finding the bombshell who’s your intellectual match, and can give it just as good as she takes it.
Pretty much nailed it. Confidence and comfort within one’s own skin are drop-dead sexy. But not the kind of unprovoked bravado expressed as, “Well I don’t CARE what anybody else thinks, this is the way I am!” That’s a man who’s actually insecure (for whatever reason) and eventually will turn it on you as jealousy once he thinks he has a woman to lose. At least, that’s been my experience. Next time I know to RUN fom that guy! :o)
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