I think it depends on the situation.
My sister is getting a divorce right now from her alcoholic, cheating husband. She was a wonderful wife and mother.
She has the right to the entire house because she has the kids and He left the state to live and work somewhere else.
but she decided to be nice about it and offered to split the proceeds of the house sale 50/50.
he comes back and offers her 30K for a house that is worth 130k.....she counter offers with 40k and HE WON’T GO FOR IT!!!
what an ASS!!!! She could take the whole thing but no, thats not good enough for him! She’s the one with 3 kids to raise on her own and his income hasnt changed at all. She needs to put a new roof over her families head and he expects her to take that kind of screwin????
Men are just as greedy and assholy as women. There is no way that I feel one bit sorry for men in the divorce arena.
sometimes women get screwed big time too!!!!
By the time the lawyers get done they will all be screwed.
Of course they do. But the real issue is the way the laws are stacked against men.
The fallacy in your logic is in going from the micro to the macro. Which is generally the case when one relies on anecdotal examples as evidence. Has no bearing on the inequality of the current laws. The fact that your sister is not taking advantage of the biased laws does not negate their inequality. You sister is acting foolish. That's her responsibility.
I really appreciate FRee Republic, because most of the posts and posters are so keenly objective in nature.
I know really great guys who got the shaft in court and are paying through the nose now. Completely unfair, totally outrageous. I wish they had come out swinging instead of being gentlemen.
On the flip side is my sister; talented, funny, very pretty woman who worked 3 jobs to keep the roof over her lazy-ass husband's head. While he was claiming poor, and my sis was killing herself to pay the bills, he was actually squiring his girlies around, taking them out to dinner, buying them presents, etc. He didn't have money to give her for their daughter's school clothes, but he had money to take his honies skiing! He told her she was such a fat, ugly cow, she was lucky he stayed with her!
Sis decided to change her life. Got a gastric by-pass and filed for divorce. Lost a bunch of weight, looks fabulous, and is dropping the 185 pounds of crap (soon to be ex-husband) from her life.
Sis tried to play nice for the sake of their daughter; splitting everything fairly down the middle (even though she paid most or all of the bills for their entire marriage), making concessions to end things amicably.
Just recently, she found a great guy who adores her and treats her like a queen. When POS found out, he threatened to take their daughter away from her, claiming she was an unfit mother. Isn't that a laugh? He was cheating on her for years, but he apparently didn't like the fact that he had been REPLACED.
That was it. Now it's war. She's going for the jugular, and I'm shouting encouragement all the way. She has proof of his infidelity going back years and she wants EVERYTHING.
Attorney says she has a good chance of getting it!
The difference is that the system will eat his lunch and use it to buy her dinner. Just watch.
The system is built on the assumption that EVERY man is like the 'hole in you situation. I've been a white male my whole life, heh. That and obtaining my Sociology degree as a white male has more than adequately educated me on the history and characteristics of "systemic and culturally biased discrimination." And I can tell you that the "Friend of the Court" is BUILT to be a no-win situation for men.
Oh, sure, the laws and procedures don't SAY "the father," its just the 90% of those that get the "unfortunate" treatment are men. The 10% that are women allow the civil servants and judges to lie to themselves about how fair the system is.
If it was your brother and his cheatin’ wife, well we can guess.. Sexist.
The divorce system in our country favord the most ruthless party. That’s the sad part. Once we move to the no-fault system, it essentially became the screw-the-more-innocent system.
This article was written exactly because of chicks like you.