Posted on 02/16/2006 10:01:20 AM PST by klossg
One Night Stranded Should Tell Woman Something
DEAR SUSAN: I am 45 and soon to be divorced. I raised three children, who are now grown and married. My husband and I grew apart in the last years of the marriage, and I've been celibate for two years. Lately, though, I've been feeling very alive and sensual.
Recently, I asked a wonderful single man I know if he'd consider a few hours of "pleasure," no strings attached. He said he would, but then he changed his mind. He didn't give a reason. How do I ask another man in a way that won't get me rejected again?
- Desperate to Feel Like a Woman. Long Island, N.Y.
DEAR DESPERATE: You don't. Take a cue from this wonderful man and his second thoughts and stop and think this through. This is a delicate phase you're going through, a mixture of all sorts of feelings and moods, a time for clear thinking. Your idea of going from man to man, asking for sex, shows me anything but. The next time you're feeling supersensual, let a cold shower remind you that a period of celibacy can be extremely creative and fulfilling, and that channeling your libido into self-expression can make you feel more of a woman than any amount of loveless sex. Give it a try. The offer comes with no strings.
Write to Susan Deitz c/o DivorceInteractive.com, 94 Second Street, Mineola, N.Y. 11501. She will answer all letters that come with a self-addressed, stamped envelope.
This was a ploy on her part. She targeted "Mr. Wonderful Single Man" as a potential relationship, but he wasn't noticing her so she was hoping to string some "no strings" sexual activity into a relationship. He ducked, she missed.
I have any number of stupid female friends who try this repeatedly and can never seem to learn that sex doesn't ascribe to the mathematical principle that 2+3=5 so 3+2 must also equal 5. Emotional attachment = hot sex does not mean that hot sex also = emotional attachment.
Next time invite him over for a meal involving red meat and gravy. Or a sporting event and some bratwurst. Or a seriously violent action film followed by a char-grilled burger and a real malt.
She should also realize that you can make cinnamon rolls or sticky buns in the bread machine in 90 minutes and put them in the fridge overnight and serve them piping hot in the next morning.
I am not prejudiced according to age. It's just a number. Of course guys like to believe that for when they are fooling with the 22 year old Hooters waitress.
LOL, you two..
(najida, 36 isn't jailbait, my southern sister)
I.e., he's gay.
Or.... he realizes that 'no strings attached' isn't always true.
Most guys would roll the dice on that.
Where is he when opportunity strikes?
Wow... we've got a real, live, conservative, single, man in Washington State?
Dibs!
;-)
I hear you. More or less, a woman can get some anytime she puts out the shingle.
I hope he considers it a badge of honor. Right now, I think he's trying to track this woman down.
Exactly!
I like you!
So does that mean I can hit on the young guys at the fish market?
Oh YEAH!
HIT all you want!!
But - then you have to tell us how it goes.
Oh Crap!
He's all the way out there!
Geez, bet he has all his teeth too. Hrmpt.
I called Dibs!
;-)
sure, but not at the fish market...can't you find some place better?
come on, najida...am I gonna have to come to Savannah and show you how?
Well,
If I start bragging about getting bushels of oysters for free....you'll know ;)
Prehaps, but I calls 'em as I see 'em.
Oh - you lucky gal....
Until then - Bob Hitachi?
Or he Googled her and found out about the warrant out on her for killing her husband;)
You didn't watch MNITGO&E? Gay, dead, lunatic, married, incarcerated, toothless, tranny....did I mention gay?
Savannah is one of the worst cities on the planet for dating. Worst.
Really.
Honest.
Truly.
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