[ScubieNuc]

"Jesus, isn't anything private anymore?"

I'm still anonymous. Plus, I think this should be talked about. With the divorce rate in America so high, I'm sure that I am not the only person to go through this.

Sorry if I grossed you out, but I am serious about looking for insight.

Sincerely

[ShadowDancer]

You have no qualms about asking 100,000 complete strangers about your marital problems when you haven't even discussed it with your wife. Gee, you think you might have missed a step in the process?

And then there's this:

Problem with that is that she has lost her self confidence and will regress into a belief that she has failed me, and shut down in a “woe is me” fit.

If this is the normal way that you treat/speak to your wife, count your blessings that you have gotten any in the last 18 years.