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You have no qualms about asking 100,000 complete strangers about your marital problems when you haven't even discussed it with your wife. Gee, you think you might have missed a step in the process?

And then there's this:

Problem with that is that she has lost her self confidence and will regress into a belief that she has failed me, and shut down in a “woe is me” fit.

If this is the normal way that you treat/speak to your wife, count your blessings that you have gotten any in the last 18 years.

You have no qualms about asking 100,000 complete strangers about your marital problems when you haven't even discussed it with your wife."

I have discussed the "bedroom issues" with her, but have gotten no where.

Do you honestly think I should tell her that I have been feeling like pursueing people that have shown interest in me? Two of her friends are going through, and finishing up divorses. She is overweight and can't seem to lose it. If I told her something like that, she would always assume, whenever I was late fishing or coming home, or whatever, that I was out pursueing. That would be a loss of trust that would be on her mind forever. I would rather "talk" to anonymous people and get it off of my chest, and retain her trust.