Intimacy and sex are two different things. You wrote a lote about one but not the other. If you truly want to rekindle and not just get some, focus on intimacy. The sex might come afterwards and stick around a bit. Be selfless and do some of the things you said you avoid. Do them with an honst heart. Start with Valentine's Day. Rack your brains to remember your best VD and do the same things. Buy cut fowers every Sunday morning without a word to her so she wont feel like she owes you anything. Be attractive to her. Do your chores and don't ask for credit. If the vette isn't an option, buy a new camera, camper orboat - something to make 'outside' ore exciting again. Take day trips together. I know I'm probably projecting onto you, but as a female, my perspective might have a few small merits. Above all, avoid temptation. Pray that this is just a bad spot in a good marriage.
All very good points. I will start doing more of the spontanious flower thing, starting tonight. However, here is my question...If I don't keep it up, doesn't it just raise the bar for the future?
Example:
I start buying flowers once a week, and attach a little letter with it. After Valentines Day or whenever, life gets busier, and the flowers/letters slow down or stop. In order to respark the romance, don't I then need to do something more or inovative? I truely don't believe I could keep that up indefinately! Maybe I could do something once a month, forever, but doesn't even that become routine, and fake?
Sincerely
Yeah. What she said.