My wife has been the head RN for a very busy FP doctor for 26 years.
Over the two plus decades, he has probably refused to write hundreds of rxes for Ritalin demanded by the CTA Union teachers of California to calm boys down.
His reply was if his parents had done this, his sister, two brothers and he would have been drugged on Ritalin.
If parents push it, he tells them to give their kids Cokes, Pepsi or Mountain Dews to drink to calm them down. If they decide push past that, he informs them to find another doctor for the entire family. After a few letters to pushy parents dropping the entire family as patients, the word got out in the community not to push the good Dr and demand Ritalin for their kids.
His reply was if his parents had done this, his sister, two brothers and he would have been drugged on Ritalin.
A friend of ours has a child who is a hyper kid. The school insisted the child be put on medication and she refused. They gave our friend a very hard time. She finally went to a doctor and obtained a written opinion that the child didn't need medication. This worked but, even when you win one, the child suffers because often the teacher and the school seek to somehow get even with the score. You need to be really careful even when you win. We, as parents to 7, have found that the best way to keep things under control at school is to be very active with your child in school. I don't mean the big picture like attending and active in PTA. We go to the parent/teacher conferences and make sure we talk to each teacher even when it is high school. If there is a problem at anytime we get in contact with the teacher or principal or even the office. This way the school knows that we care what is going on with our child and if they are dealing with our child they are also dealing with us. Sometimes you even have to get right into their face to make them realize that raising our kid is our job. They can help but only as we give them permission.
Too many teachers take Hillary's notion that raising a child takes a whole village. A child needs a family and not a commune. The village doesn't need to be involved in the child rearing business and can best support the parent and not directly the child.