chookter - nowadays it sounds corny and simple to talk about religion and God since for the last 30 years God's teachings (the bible) have been and are rejected by so many around us and in the media and especially the feminists. The key to this man/woman relationship thing is both partners must respect God first, then with that in place, both can respect and love each other regardless of our faults. My wife and I both went through periods in our lives, before we met, where we could look upon the opposite sex with contempt - but we both believed in God and in due time (a long long time) found each other. If you put God first, and trust Him, you will find a woman doing the same and then you will find happiness in marriage. Our society has made this a very hard road to travel to say the least.
Women want the security to know that the man they marry will be there with them and the children for their entire life. That's how it is in God's plan laid out by the bible. When women feel they cannot have this security, when society tries to pattern itself on something other than the ten Commandments, then women will try to use the state to obtain security. That's what we're witnessing today.
I think that is true. I do respect God. He is first in my life, but the churches in my area just stink--so I'm kind of on my own with that one... The Protestant ones are unbelievably liberal and I'm not Catholic, though my ex was--I used to go to Mass with her (when she used to go, before she got into New Age crap and Tarot reading) and the girls were dressed like 'hoochie-mamas'. I mean it was pretty cool, T & A and lots of exposed flesh, but not really what I would go to church for....
Women want the security to know that the man they marry will be there with them and the children for their entire life.
I don't believe that is true anymore. It may have never been true. I believe that we do not, and cannot, know what women want because they don't know what they want. They only wanted 'security' and a 'life-time mate' because they suffered badly if they didn't.
then women will try to use the state to obtain security.
No, they will use it to get money, fun, power and to avoid responsibility
Trusting in God is what heals the wounds inflicted by unloving husbands and unsubmissive wives. But this has been increasingly shunned and discarded by our society and woe is us as a result.