Am I 3 out of 3?
I have a close relative (young woman) who became a lesbian in her late teens - turned out she was molested as a child apparently by an older male relative. Many if not a majority of lesbians have been molested when they were children by men.
Here's how it works - if a boy is molested, it can be managed so that he enjoys the "sex" - so he winds up being sexualized by the homosexual experience, which is not only molestetation but turns into seduction. But when girls are molested they usually only feel pain and fear, so they are turned off to men. I feel very very sorry for my relative, I pray for her daily. Also, she does not look like a man!
In addition to being molested, the training and recruitment going on in schools and media is creating a pool of future victims (and later molesters and seducers).
Your limited exposure to lesbians is obvious. I lived in an Apt building above a lesbian club in Miami Beach...and most of lesbians you would see there were absolutely gorgeous. Enough to tick off any man!