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Would it be better if they were all good members of church groups and never did anything beyond a simple goodnight kiss? Possibly. Is it likely that most teenagers will completely avoid risky behavior and acts that they consider rebelling against their parents? I don't think so. I think your comment suggesting these kids are on their way to becoming prostitutes is small, gratuitous, and inaccurate. Were you never a teenager? Or were you a goody-two-shoes who never ever did anything other than exactly what your parents told you?

You have extremely low expectations for your daughters, and are also endangering them. If you really think it's OK to overlook boys' ejaculating in your daughters' mouths (after having made their rounds), then I feel sorry for you (but most especially for your daughers). No one can control what their kids do. But we certainly try to start with the best advice we can give them. Which in this case is, don't get involved with this stuff. Nothing good comes of it. We tell them that they will lead far happier lives if they reserve sexuality for marriage. And believe it or not, I think they understand that. And further, they actually ARE members of church groups (ones that we carefully vet). In these groups, in general, are good, wholesome kids who are trying valiantly to lead good, wholesome lives in the face of a culture which seeks at every step to corrupt them in one way or another (sex, oral sex, drugs, violence, profanity, bullying, etc. etc.). When your daughter comes home with oral gonorrhea, or when five boys come a-calling for servicing, you will have only yourself to blame. Finally, if you are telling your daughter that the way to engage in a relationship with a boy is to service him whenever he wants (which for most boys, would be quite frequently), I guarantee you that she will have NO lack of eager boyfriends. Whether they are the kind of boyfriends you would wish for your daughter, I honestly don't know. They would not be the kind of boys I would want my daughter to befriend.

You seem to be confusing what I am reporting my kids telling me about what goes on with what my kids are doing. As I told another poster, our kids tell us what's going on with their peeers and I'm glad they feel free enough to be level with us. Both our girls are involved in Church activities (not to mention serious music - instrumental and vocal-, varsity sports and serious academics)and their friends are wholesome kids whose parents have values similar to ours, they respect themselves and seem to be making good choices in their friends, their activities and the boys they date.

But there are a lot of girls they know - if only because they have grown up with them over the years or have classes with them - who have idle time, less active moral compasses and who do engage in risky behaviors. They tell us out of concern, usually when they've been unable to persuade old friends to straighten out.

Amen. I am a teenager (19 and just out of HS getting ready for college) and I find the whole concept of oral sex to be well, not just immoral, but plain gross. I am sorry, but I don't find it very appetizing even as a guy who would essentially be on the "receiving end" of the deal. And I don't know why a girl would find ejaculating into the mouth exactly a fun experience....it frankly about makes me throw up just thinking about it! If I was a parent, there is no way I would be approving of a guy trying to be my daughter's bf that thought such an activity was appealing. Any parent that doesn't care, like the poster you replied to, is negligent and an unfit parent.