[CatoRenasci]

You seem to be confusing what I am reporting my kids telling me about what goes on with what my kids are doing. As I told another poster, our kids tell us what's going on with their peeers and I'm glad they feel free enough to be level with us. Both our girls are involved in Church activities (not to mention serious music - instrumental and vocal-, varsity sports and serious academics)and their friends are wholesome kids whose parents have values similar to ours, they respect themselves and seem to be making good choices in their friends, their activities and the boys they date.

But there are a lot of girls they know - if only because they have grown up with them over the years or have classes with them - who have idle time, less active moral compasses and who do engage in risky behaviors. They tell us out of concern, usually when they've been unable to persuade old friends to straighten out.

[yendu bwam]

Would it be better if they were all good members of church groups and never did anything beyond a simple goodnight kiss? Possibly.

I'm glad that you're doing that for your daughters. Perhaps I got the wrong impression from your statement above. I don't have any trouble figuring out which is better.