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Oral-sex issue hits middle schools (posted 6/10/2002)
Lexington Herald Leader ^ | Jun. 09, 2002 | Valarie Honeycutt Spears

Posted on 06/10/2002 4:35:38 AM PDT by Pern

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To: Pern
speaking bluntly with middle school students is key to helping them understand

Wrong! Middle school children have no business being at a "party" escecially if it is unsupervised by adults. These children should "understand" what the word "NO" means.

221 posted on 06/10/2002 3:29:20 PM PDT by mrfixit514
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To: yendu bwam
"They are less valuable to many serious men looking for a life long mate."

Serious men should be very wary about these women. I watched Cheaters last night. A guy was suspicious about his girlfriend of two years, and yes she was cheating on him. They supposedly had a serious relationship. She was caught in a motel room with her other lover. At first, she said that her boyfriend was never with her. Then, she said that she doesn't know why she cheated on him.

I think she was right. She doesn't know. These girls are being brought up now to believe that sex with someone is perfectly normal. If you like someone, you are expected to go to bed with him. They do not think that sex means anything besides making you feel good. They carry this attitude toward sex with them throughout life. They cheat because they don't think that cheating is wrong.

Many parents teach their kids this sort of attitude. The kids are going to have sex anyway, so teach them to use condoms is the cry of these parents. They are supposed to teach their kids right and wrong, but they don't know what they are teaching.

Many parents of today are the same people who rebelled against the sexual mores of thirty years ago. Now, they are teaching their kids the same things.

222 posted on 06/10/2002 3:30:25 PM PDT by Don Myers
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To: Kevin Curry
That's the continuing problem with FR. : - (

There needs to be an age limit ; at least on some threads.

223 posted on 06/10/2002 3:31:39 PM PDT by nopardons
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To: Don Myers
Right you are .
224 posted on 06/10/2002 3:33:27 PM PDT by nopardons
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To: ThinkLikeWaterAndReeds
How many "faithful" moral majority husbands have teenage trailer-trash lovers because their wives are so very proper?

I don't know. I suspect it's a very small number.

Your fatuous suggestion that girls should practice oral sex as much as possible so they can make themselves more marriagable sounds like a article proposal-reject for Cosmopolitan Magazine.

225 posted on 06/10/2002 3:33:38 PM PDT by Kevin Curry
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To: yendu bwam
But why sad, JediGirl, if she knew the guy for three months and cared for him?

If you don't understand the difference between a 17 or 18 year old having sex and 11 year old and are trying to insinuate that I don't, that I equivocate pre-teens having sex to young adults doing so, then you are an idiot.

226 posted on 06/10/2002 3:40:46 PM PDT by JediGirl
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To: nopardons
Whether you like it or not, this is a two party country.

It is. That's why I'm a libertarian Republican....

227 posted on 06/10/2002 3:43:32 PM PDT by Dan from Michigan
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To: Pern
"limited to small number of students?" Uh, sorry, this is just NOT true. Unfortunately, this is becoming commonplace in today's middle schools.
228 posted on 06/10/2002 3:44:27 PM PDT by rwfromkansas
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To: nopardons
Whether you like it or not, this is a two party country. Libertarianism may look good ( to you ) on paper; however , like Communism , it is totally unworkable.

I didn't start this topic. But yes, this isn't the topic so we'll get back to the subject at hand.

229 posted on 06/10/2002 3:45:48 PM PDT by JediGirl
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To: CatoRenasci
"but the young person who does not ever assert themselves contrary to their parents wishes I view with grave suspicion."

That's really sad and an even worse comment on our society. I happen to be married to a wonderful woman who never rebelled against her parents in any way. That's not to say she always agreed with them or understood their reasons (she does now that she's a mother), but she had (and still has) the best relationship with her parents that I have ever seen with anybody.

Also, you may think she is just not telling me everything, but I have verified it with her parents and with her closest friends. No drinking, no smoking, no drugs, no sex, no running around town causing mischief. Nothing. Period.

I thank God daily that he blessed me with a woman of such character (who is the product of parents with impecable character themselves).

230 posted on 06/10/2002 3:49:18 PM PDT by Pablo64
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To: nopardons
Are you just attemting to validating your own sexual promiscuity ?

Now that your pathetic arguments aren't working, are you resorting to ad hominem attacks? Nice try, but it will get you nowhere.

I can play with adults all day long. It helps when you have reinforcements from your like-minded buddies, as I do not on this forum that lacks diverse opinions (it is, after all, clearly stated that it is a conservative forum and many threads consist of everybody agreeing with eachother until somebody comes in and disagrees and is promptly jumped on; yes, there is a discernable pattern here).

231 posted on 06/10/2002 3:50:09 PM PDT by JediGirl
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To: JediGirl
equivocate ... to use ambiguous or unclear expressios; usually to avoid commitment or i order to mislead; prevaricatee or hedge.

This isn't what you meant to say at all. Please don't use words that you don't know the meaning if, in order to impress or look mre inelligent than you are. You only make yourself look far worse, than you already have managed to do.

Since the topic of this thread, is talking about children, who are 12 and a little more; your anecdotal example of an 11 ear old ( and in some places, 11 year olds ARE in middle school ! ) , that does fall into the ballpark.

Is it your contention, then, that 17 year olds are " mature " enough to engage in all manner of sexual acts ?

232 posted on 06/10/2002 3:50:19 PM PDT by nopardons
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To: Dan from Michigan
Yes, we know. But that's NOT what JediGirl said of herself. I was just trying to make her see what's what. LOL
233 posted on 06/10/2002 3:52:17 PM PDT by nopardons
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To: JediGirl
If you don't understand the difference between a 17 or 18 year old having sex and 11 year old and are trying to insinuate that I don't, that I equivocate pre-teens having sex to young adults doing so, then you are an idiot.

You ought to stop by the infidels.org webpage on logical fallacies, because you just committed a couple of them. Specifically, special pleading and ad hominem. The "you are an idiot" is an obvious ad hominem.

But I'd like to concentrate on the special pleading. Why is it okay for a 17-year-old to sleep with someone she "really cares about" and knows "well enough," but not okay for an 11-year-old to do the same thing?

Today you say "teenagers are going to have sex and need to be taught how to do so 'safely'". But other people already say the same thing about 11-year-olds. Why are they wrong, but you are right?

Also, in case you missed the topic of this thread, it's about oral sex in middle schools. You know, 11, 12, 13, 14-year-old kids. That's who we're talking about. That's who the educrats think need to be taught how to put on a condom. Why does an 11-year-old need to know how to put on a condom, other than to have sexual activity?

234 posted on 06/10/2002 3:53:28 PM PDT by Campion
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To: Don Myers
Many parents of today are the same people who rebelled against the sexual mores of thirty years ago. Now, they are teaching their kids the same things

True. However I don't know how many other people have noticed that the sixties generation, at least the most irresponsible ones, appear to be dying sooner than say, members of the World War II generation. As such, the problem may be "self correcting" through the process of natural selection.

Here is the problem: what needs to occur is a sea change in moral attitudes. The government is terrible at doing this. However there are some things that can be done -

Take the lid off religion - even the Dutch sex education programme combines it with religious education to snap the restraint of moral censure on sexual activity.

Empower parents - parents are blithely swimming along thinking the schools are going to substitute for genuine parenting, particularly on issues like this. It won't work.

Remove incentives for licentiousness - that means no more government benefits for welfare mothers, for example.

However what has to change for this problem to really be dealt with cannot be dealt with by legislation. We need to start looking at shame as being shameful, hedonism as being abnormal and dangerous, and sex a private preserve that best exists within the confines of marriage. It requires turning back the moral clock to before the 1960's. It's hard to see how that can be done without society realising on its own that it must. Perhaps the fact that sleeping around has turned singles bars into Petrie dishes for diseases that Saddam Hussein would envy, people will finally get the message. Maybe.

Regards, Ivan

235 posted on 06/10/2002 3:54:46 PM PDT by MadIvan
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To: yendu bwam
And smart boys are not interested in sluts. The trouble is, they are having to search farther and wider to find girls who aren't. The girls have devalued themselves enormously.

Perhaps you should compare your definition of slut with that of those you claim aren't interested. You may find some find those you think slutty quite acceptable to many marriage minded men.

236 posted on 06/10/2002 3:55:29 PM PDT by laredo44
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To: Kevin Curry
Adult children=the most expensive and destructive kind. Whiney-butt dopers and hedonists shoving the costs of their idiotic behavior onto the rest of us.

I have a nine year-old who likely has far better self-control and more common sense than the lot of adult pro-dope libertarians who post here.

Snivelling freeloaders.

Before making such accusations, I would suggest you back them up? Snivelling freeloaders? How so? I will call you on your idiotic assertions, so be prepared to back them up, won't you? The question here is: Who is and isn't allowed to rule your life? How do you define common sense? Someone who adheres to your narrow and "moral" views of what is right? The libertarian philosophy is live and let live. Conservative philosophy as it is today, is 'live as i say live'. Whiney butt dopers are the cause of today's problems? Someone lighting up a joint in their livingroom and hanging around will be the end of the American civilization. I beg to differ. Take your idiocy elsewhere. Your post is irrelevant to the topic and I'm only replying to it because you are full of it and your statements need to be shown for what they are: stupid.

237 posted on 06/10/2002 3:56:39 PM PDT by JediGirl
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To: JediGirl
That I would want her to be in a relationship for more than 3 months before going ahead with such a big step in a relationship.

Why 3 months? What's the difference between 3 and 4 months? or just 2 months, for that matter? I knew more than one girl in HS that was pretty hurt the day she finally put out for that guy she thought really cared about her.
I realize you are very young, JediGirl, so I feel like I can tell you that there is truly no such thing as "safe sex". It's a myth. Oh, you may start out with hand-jobs and condoms, but pretty soon, a girl will get talked into the real deal. Once you start, it's hard to stop and you can rationalize and justify all sorts of behaviors.

238 posted on 06/10/2002 3:58:38 PM PDT by scan58
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To: JediGirl
No, dear, you ay MB> attempt to " play " with the adults; however, you can't win , or even come out equal to them. You are a minow, playing with the sharks.

Also, there isn't 100 % agreement here at all ; not even amongst all adults, on most subjects.

You may think that , at 17, you are more grownup than an 11 or 12 year old. You haven't proved that on this thread.

239 posted on 06/10/2002 3:59:09 PM PDT by nopardons
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To: nopardons
Excuse me for misusing. One. Word. I appreciate your calling me on that as I would have done the same to someone else.

Is it your contention, then, that 17 year olds are " mature " enough to engage in all manner of sexual acts ?

Why does it matter to you?

240 posted on 06/10/2002 3:59:21 PM PDT by JediGirl
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