Serious men should be very wary about these women. I watched Cheaters last night. A guy was suspicious about his girlfriend of two years, and yes she was cheating on him. They supposedly had a serious relationship. She was caught in a motel room with her other lover. At first, she said that her boyfriend was never with her. Then, she said that she doesn't know why she cheated on him.
I think she was right. She doesn't know. These girls are being brought up now to believe that sex with someone is perfectly normal. If you like someone, you are expected to go to bed with him. They do not think that sex means anything besides making you feel good. They carry this attitude toward sex with them throughout life. They cheat because they don't think that cheating is wrong.
Many parents teach their kids this sort of attitude. The kids are going to have sex anyway, so teach them to use condoms is the cry of these parents. They are supposed to teach their kids right and wrong, but they don't know what they are teaching.
Many parents of today are the same people who rebelled against the sexual mores of thirty years ago. Now, they are teaching their kids the same things.
True. However I don't know how many other people have noticed that the sixties generation, at least the most irresponsible ones, appear to be dying sooner than say, members of the World War II generation. As such, the problem may be "self correcting" through the process of natural selection.
Here is the problem: what needs to occur is a sea change in moral attitudes. The government is terrible at doing this. However there are some things that can be done -
Take the lid off religion - even the Dutch sex education programme combines it with religious education to snap the restraint of moral censure on sexual activity.
Empower parents - parents are blithely swimming along thinking the schools are going to substitute for genuine parenting, particularly on issues like this. It won't work.
Remove incentives for licentiousness - that means no more government benefits for welfare mothers, for example.
However what has to change for this problem to really be dealt with cannot be dealt with by legislation. We need to start looking at shame as being shameful, hedonism as being abnormal and dangerous, and sex a private preserve that best exists within the confines of marriage. It requires turning back the moral clock to before the 1960's. It's hard to see how that can be done without society realising on its own that it must. Perhaps the fact that sleeping around has turned singles bars into Petrie dishes for diseases that Saddam Hussein would envy, people will finally get the message. Maybe.
Regards, Ivan