Posted on 06/10/2002 4:35:38 AM PDT by Pern
JediGirl to daughter: "If you care for him, go ahead and have sex with him. If you find you don't like him, and you care for someone else, go and have sex with him. If you 'care for' three guys in your high school class, it's OK to service them. But to have sex without 'caring' would cheapen yourself!
That's why I stress the importance of being sure of who you're with. Not everybody has an STD. I think it best to be with your partner for some time before having sex.
I love how the religious right puts words in other's mouths. I never at once said I'd tell my daughter to sleep around and such a response is worthy of being called pathetic. I would tell my daughter that I would prefer she be safe if she is going to have sex. That I would want her to be in a relationship for more than 3 months before going ahead with such a big step in a relationship. To be sure that she truly cares for this person, because she is giving herself to him.
You mature babes could take a lesson from these girls!
I was waiting for someone to trot out this tired nonsense.
You know, it's true: some teenagers will have sex. But would one of the resident "just let 'em do it, and teach 'em how" sex ed apologists please explain for me why so many more teenagers are having sex, now that we have condoms in every drugstore, abortionists in every city, and so-called "entertainers" wailing smutty lyrics while wearing little or nothing ... on TV that's targeted to 13-year-olds?
I mean, you wouldn't care to take a break from surrendering to the depraved mores of the age for just a minute, to admit that perhaps those mores are part of the problem, not part of the solution ... would you?
I mean, yeah, 100 years ago some teenagers had sex. If the girl's daddy found out, they visited a judge with a little prodding from daddy's shotgun. If too many boys found out that a girl was easy, she could count on marrying someone at the bottom of the barrel, because decent boys weren't interested in a slut.
And you know what? Oral gonorrhea was something only prostitutes got. Genital herpes was unknown. Marriage was respected and valued, and promiscuity was considered a disgrace. Oh, and we didn't rip up 1.4 million unborn kids every year, either.
You go ahead and think today's gutter morals are an improvement if you want to. As for me and my house, we will say defiantly: h*ll no!
Whenever you sleep with a guy, you're exposing yourself to all the bad STD stuff that that guy was exposed to in his past sexual experiences. Many times, people have STDs for long periods of time without even knowing it. At some colleges, half of the women have chlamydia. Unless you're requiring your boyfriends to have complete medical checkups before engaging in sex (which somehow I doubt), it's only a matter of time before you end up with a bad surprise.
Ok, three months is the minimum you would like for her to wait before giving herself to a boy. Is there a specific location that you prefer for her to be for making love with her boyfriend? Anyway,at least, you are not saying two or three dates.
Not every STD has a cure. Some of them are your "friend" for life.
Doublethink?
So many of our kids are so deep in the gutter, they don't even know there's another way. It's very, very sad. But such won't happen in my house either. Bravo and well said, CAmpion!!!
Teens have changed because parents have changed. We have one parent who wants her daughter to wait three months before having sex. It used to be that parents controlled their kids and shotgun weddings were the norm when daughters had sex with a boyfriend. Times have really changed. One thing has not changed. Decent boys still are not interested in sluts.
Wow, a whole three months!!! Nope, that wouldn't be sleeping around at all.
And smart boys are not interested in sluts. The trouble is, they are having to search farther and wider to find girls who aren't. The girls have devalued themselves enormously.
Just out of curiousity, how much trouble would she have been in for slapping him? (IMHO, that's the only appropriate response to that kind of question. Except maybe if it was a doctor asking.)
If your answer is "a whole truckload of industrial-strength trouble," then we clearly have a sign that the schools' priorities are bass-ackwards.
When I say "more than 3 months" it doesn't mean, exactly 3 months. It means longer than a short period of time so that you have a pretty well established idea as to who he is. And the phrase "sleeping around" implies sexual activity with more than one person in a short period of time with no relationship attached.
No. I should perhaps clarify what i am saying: The above applies to teens who are already engaging in sex or are planning on doing so. Telling them that they should be abstinent is counter-productive if information on how to be somewhat safe when it comes to having sex is not provided as well. They will not care if they plan on engaging in sex anyway.
I have a better one. Spit a big gob of spit right in his face, then say, "Hmm ... guess I spit ... do you swallow?"
Which is why I stress the importance of carefully choosing a partner.
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