Posted on 01/05/2023 10:54:43 AM PST by nickcarraway
Popping the question can often leave one's partner speechless.
A man in Taiwan recently elicited that response from his girlfriend but unfortunately, the proposal didn't turn out exactly the way he envisioned it.
She was moved by his proposal until he told her this: "It took me very long to pick out a diamond ring. It's 15,000TWD (S$6,600), don't worry, you can take your time transferring half the amount to me."
This took her by surprise and she questioned the need to do so.
His reply?
"Marriage is between two of us, shouldn't we share the costs?"
Unable to accept his reasoning, the woman took to online forum Dcard last month to air her grievances.
She wrote that they've been dating for four years and they've always shared expenses, including small purchases like bottled water.
The woman said she was okay with how her boyfriend handled money, however, she was stunned by his suggestion that she pay for her half of the diamond ring — an item that she felt should be a gift.
After her post made the rounds online, it appears that many in China's online community felt that she had every right to be upset with her boyfriend's actions, with some suggesting that she should just dump him.
"Men who can't afford to spend money on you really don't want you in the first place," a netizen snapped.
Another said: "From now on, you only brush the right half of the toilet and let him brush the left half."
In an update on her post, the woman said that their relationship has deteriorated and added that she has not worn the engagement ring.
It "would be difficult" if she had to spend the rest of her life this way, she said.
For now, it looks like they'll hash out their views on spending money.
Over in neighbouring Hong Kong, brides-to-be are expecting their partners to propose with, not just a diamond ring, but one with the size of at least one carat.
This came from a survey focused on the spending behaviour of over 1,200 respondents.
Meanwhile in Singapore, the most common engagement rings purchased are those sporting a 0.5 - 1.0 carat diamonds.
According to ValueChampion, these are priced between roughly $1,231 and $2,066.
If you're looking for tips on finding the perfect engagement ring, start by keeping your eyes peeled for your partner's preferences.
Apart from diamonds, there are also more non-conventional options like ruby or emerald.
The age-old rule is that an engagement ring should be three times one's monthly salary. But of course, spending within one's own financial means is key.
There's no need to fall in debt when starting this new chapter in life.
Should have gotten a 3300.00 ring.
Or better yet, a 500.00 ring
Sorry, I meant to put the amount in U.S. dollars: $4,909.67.
He’s a turkey.
Envision this scenario:
I’m with my hypothetical beloved, having a nice spaghetti dinner at a higher-end Italian-American restaurant. I’m ready to propose. I get on one knee and pull out the ring and pop question No. 1.
Beloved: (with tears of joy) Yes!
Me, with question No. 2: You want to go halvesies on the ring? I really could use the help.
Beloved: Unloads plate of half-eaten spaghetti upon my face.
So there were a bunch of people with strong opinions on the internet.
I could really, truly help them buy a ring. The sad fact is almost no one will take the suggestion that I can help and no one ever asks advice on how to do so, even though I’ve let people know I can help them. I have decided that ignorance can almost not be overcome.
“The age-old rule is that an engagement ring should be three times one’s monthly salary”
Marketing BS.
anyway the guy appears to be a cheapo. Split the cost on bottled water? For real?
I guess it would depend on what the dowry is from her side.
Oh wait! Do they do that anymore?
I would love to hear what Dave Ramsey thinks about the proper cost for an engagement ring and who should pay
Sorry Luv, but I imagine this wasn’t the first red flag he’s shown to you.
Around here I pay all the bills then get bitched at for spending too much money.
“Unable to accept his reasoning, the woman took to online forum Dcard last month to air her grievances.”
And in doing so, amply demonstrated that she doesn’t deserve that ring or that man.
The guy is still the one who pays for everything, who loses half of his possessions in a divorce, and who is passed over in college admission and hiring for jobs. But his suitability as a marriage partner depends on his financial status.
But he is an oppressor, sexist, etc.
“Should have gotten a 3300.00 ring.
Or better yet, a 500.00 ring”
Cereal box ring.
Hmmmm...get his half, 3,300, and tell him she’ll buy the ring. Then take a NICE solo vacation and send him the vacation photos in a Thank You Card.
Women want a traditional man but don't want to be a traditional woman.
Even better!
Just what you want in a girlfriend/fiance/wife ... someone who airs the private grievances of your relationship with her onto the world wide web.
I really dislike it when spouses insult each other in public. So, yes, this is a bad sign.
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