I do love her. And I let her know that every time we speak. I am proud of her accomplishments. Our door is always open to her, and we have done all that we could when ever she has gotten herself in some type of trouble. I gave up on trying to interfere in her decision making process a long time ago. I am troubled that she has always made the decision that her own selfish wants have always been more important than her children's’ needs. She now is living half way across the country from them.
“Eligible victim” was meant to be a gallows humor type of joke, but she has hurt our former sons-in-laws who have custody of our grandchildren. We are thankful for their patience with our daughter and our grandchildren. None of them have spoken poorly about her to the kids and we are grateful to be able to get together with them and our grandkids. But I must admit that each time she introduces us to a new fiancé I pray that she will break the pattern she has seemed to establish. As soon as she gets tired of them for any reason she dumps them instead trying to work things out.
As far as her "baggage"... what do you call three bankruptcies, three children from three different men, three divorces, a body covered with tattoos, and other issues that don't need to be repeated? Despite all this we consider her to be a good daughter. And as I said previously, my wife and I love her and we continue to welcome her into our home and give her whatever help she asks for.
So I am sorry you were offended by my post and blame me for the breakdown of the family in our society. Would you be offended if she was a card carrying ANTIFA member and I said I called that "baggage"? Maybe one day you will end up with a grown child who repeatedly makes decisions that hurts other people in your family and then you can give me some more good advice on how to speak about my daughter on this forum.
With all due respect, that's the problem right there. Until you stop helping her and giving her whatever she asks for, she won't have to fully live with the consequences of her actions.
Have you considered every time she brings a new "fiance" home she's seeking your approval to screw up again?
I get it: you love your daughter unconditionally and that's all good. When will you love her enough to make her stand on her own two feet and fully live with the consequences of her actions so she begins seeing the trail of carnage she's leaving in her wake and straightening her own life out?
Hasn't she done enough damage to her three children by three different fathers? When's it enough?
Again, I say that with all due respect as a parent myself.
Mood disorder with bipolar manic features.
Between my wife and I we have six kids, and we have a lot of friends with kids. One thing we’ve learned, and Twink may learn (but I hope she doesn’t have to experience it), is that good kids come from bad families and bad kids come from good families.
Nobody’s perfect. It’s why Christ died for ALL of us.
I was ASTOUNDED not OFFENDED.
I have four grown daughters. They are a blessing.
And I wasn’t giving you advice. I was making a comment on a public forum where you posted about your daughter.
I’ve raised four daughters, one just married this past Saturday, and I couldn’t be more proud of them. Two college graduates working in their fields and two currently in college doing well. Lots of sleepless nights with the youngest, who is my clone, during her high school years but she matured finally. None are perfect. Parents usually do their best and are fortunate if that’s enough.