Posted on 09/03/2017 11:34:00 AM PDT by EdnaMode
Thanks to cheap sex, marriage may be doomed.
The share of Americans ages 25-34 who are married dropped 13 percentage points from 2000 to 2014. A new book by sociologist Mark Regnerus blames this declining rate on how easy it is for men to get off.
Regnerus calls it “cheap sex,” an economic term meant to describe sex that has very little cost in terms of time or emotional investment, giving it little value.
Regnerus bases his ideas, in part, on the work of British social theorist Anthony Giddens, who argued that the pill isolated sex from marriage and children. Add online pornography and dating sites to the mix and you don’t even need relationships.
The result is “two overlapping (but distinctive) markets, one for sex and one for marriage, with a rather large territory in between comprised of significant relationships of varying commitment and duration,” Regnerus writes in “Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy” (Oxford University Press).
In generations past, women generally made men wait until marriage to have sex. To get a wife (and, therefore, sex), men had to be clean and presentable and have a good job. This, Regnerus reasons, gave men all the motivation they needed to become respectable members of society.
Now with porn on-demand and greater reproductive freedom, sex is a commodity available at any time. This has left men with little motivation for marriage, writes Regnerus, who cites demographer Steven Ruggles’ prediction that one of every three people in their 20s will never marry.
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Exactly.
Books could be written about how fundamentally that altered society for the worse.
I guess he thinks having cats for pets is somehow a mark of an independent Jezebel-personally, I’ve never given a second look to a guy who didn’t like cats and dogs-the macho cowboys out here love their dogs and cats both...
If he objected to her behavior then why was he in there trying to get his?
Do you live in Orange County?
I don’t think anyone waited until marriage in the 1980s. Extremely religious people maybe.
What is her income level?
What income level does she require of a man to view him as marriageable?
A man can combine all three components when seeking a wife: looks, character, and a premarital contract.
In what ways?
a prenuptial can get tossed out for many many reasons. They usually have to have a time limit so they are not. But even with, they can get tossed out. Janet Jackson had a prenupt and after she was married the required number of years, she filed for divorce.
Excellent points.
Yes, he can look for character as well as hotness. And if he fails to do so, there’s always the FR Wimmin-hating Club.
"Perversion" is not the word he used --he termed it something like "sexual preference". But "perversion" is, by definition, any kind of "preference" which in practice ditches the essentially procreative structure and meaning of intercourse. By far the most numerous practitioners of denatured sex, and thus re-definers of marriage, are contracepting heterosexuals.
It's not just the rejection of marriage. It's the rejection of natural sex.
For some reason they find this "natural sex" to be incredibly threatening, no?
"Professing to be wise, they became fools..."
I have too much pride. If anything ever happened in my marriage, I’d never ask for a dime that wasn’t mine.
But I make my husband so happy by being everything he needs in all ways, and I HATE to spend money. So I think we’re good and solid here.
The lack of the ability to form patriarchy family as enshrined by the bible is killing marriage.
here is the translation:
I like to travel means I am not poor and don’t want to date someone poorer than me
Working on my masters means I would be bored stiff with someone who has only a diploma from some high school and I certainly am not interested in someone who only has “some college.”
And strong and independent because dudes complain about clingy.
It pixed me off when my boyfriend said I was “strong” because what that meant was he was too big of a puss to protect me
I don’t give out my location. Sorry.
Have not a clue.
I’ve told my boys to NEVER marry an American woman, as the odds are just massively stacked against a successful marriage.
Marrying foreigners is no guarantee and it could mean your sons end up unable to see their kids at all.
Also —— it can also be men destroying their wives’ lives and not only the other way round.
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