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How should I talk about Religion with my Jehovah Witness sister? Vanity.
Me | 5/04/2016 | Vanity

Posted on 05/04/2016 12:46:01 PM PDT by Zeneta

How should I talk about Religion with my Jehovah Witness sister?

I love my slightly older sister but I think/know she's gone nuts with her adherence to the Jehovah's Witnesses.

While I rarely talk or see her, we are deeply connected, most objective people would say we are estranged. I can't go that far. Regardless of circumstance, we have always been able to connect.

She has always been an "All or nothing" person, believing virtually anything and everything. While in school she excelled in math and computer programing but ran off to the Colorado Mountains to be a Ski Bunny and married my best friend. Had kids, got divorced and is now a Grandmother. She still spends hours on end standing on street corners handing out tracts for the Jehovah's Witnesses.

While I consider myself a Christian, I can't quote a single passage from the bible. I've read it, I understand it and I have accepted Christ as my Savior.

My Sister is coming to visit next week.

In a certain sense I want to undermine what I think is a cult.

At the same time I need to be respectful.

I have the feeling that any discussion that has me quoting passage's from the bible will be fruitless. There is no way I can win in a back and forth battle.

I don't know how I should handle this and I'm seeking advice.


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To: CityCenter

No I didn’t argue with them at all. I merely took every scripture they showed me, and refuted it with scripture. I biblically showed them the errors in their beliefs. They became upset and stormed out. No arguing, just two very frustrated and confused JW’s that I corrected. Using their bible to do it.
Praying is great, but a lot of Christians use it as an excuse not to witness to others. Paul confronted the non-believers and argued his point with them. I don’t remember reading of Paul avoiding confrontation because he thought it would not bring them closer to God.


81 posted on 05/04/2016 3:49:09 PM PDT by Joshua (Jimmy is the reason for this)
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To: Zeneta

Be polite and respectful. Praise her desire to seek God and know Him. Pray with her and both of you ask God to reveal any errors about His nature.

I suggest referring to the following Bible passages about knowing God:

John 12:35-45 (NEW WORLD TRANSLATION 2013)
So Jesus said to them: “The light will be among you a little while longer. Walk while you still have the light, so that darkness does not overpower you; whoever walks in the darkness does not know where he is going.
While you have the light, exercise faith in the light, so that you may become sons of light.”
Jesus said these things and went off and hid from them. Although he had performed so many signs before them, they were not putting faith in him, so that the word of Isaiah the prophet might be fulfilled, who said: “Jehovah, who has put faith in the thing heard from us? And as for the arm of Jehovah, to whom has it been revealed?” The reason why they were not able to believe is that again Isaiah said: “He has blinded their eyes and has made their hearts hard, so that they would not see with their eyes and understand with their hearts and turn around and I heal them.” Isaiah said these things because he saw his glory, and he spoke about him. All the same, many even of the rulers actually put faith in him, but they would not acknowledge him because of the Pharisees, so that they would not be expelled from the synagogue; for they loved the glory of men even more than the glory of God. However, Jesus called out and said: “Whoever puts faith in me puts faith not only in me but also in him who sent me; and whoever sees me sees also the One who sent me.”

Pay special attention to verse 41 which says, “Isaiah said these things because he saw his glory, and he spoke about him.” Exactly whom did Isaiah see in His glory? According to John, it was Jesus. But look at the passage being quoted. It is Isaiah 6. And according to Isaiah it is Jehovah whom Isaiah saw in His glory:

Isaiah 6:1-3, 9-10 (NEW WORLD TRANSLATION 2013)
In the year that King Uzziah died, I saw Jehovah sitting on a lofty and elevated throne, and the skirts of his robe filled the temple. Seraphs were standing above him; each had six wings. Each covered his face with two and covered his feet with two, and each of them would fly about with two.
And one called to the other:
“Holy, holy, holy is Jehovah of armies.
The whole earth is filled with his glory.”
...
And he replied, “Go, and say to this people:
‘You will hear again and again,
But you will not understand;
You will see again and again,
But you will not get any knowledge.’
Make the heart of this people unreceptive,
Make their ears unresponsive,
And paste their eyes together,
So that they may not see with their eyes
And hear with their ears,
So that their heart may not understand
And they may not turn back and be healed.”

The passages above are from the Jehovah Witness translation, which is a very poor translation, but in these passages it is still clear that, according to John’s Gospel, Isaiah prophesied that some Jews would have a hardened heart and would not believe in Jesus. John then says that Isaiah wrote these specific prophesies when Isaiah saw Him in His glory. Even in their translation, they admit that Isaiah saw Jesus in His glory. But ask them when this happened. And then look together in Isaiah 6. That is BOTH the chapter John quotes about the Jews being hardened, AND it is the chapter that records Isaiah seeing JEHOVAH in HIS glory.

When you read these two passages together it is very clear that John is saying Jesus is Jehovah.

The passage also makes it clear that coming to the Father is always through His Son Jesus.


82 posted on 05/04/2016 3:55:24 PM PDT by unlearner (RIP America, 7/4/1776 - 6/26/2015, "Only God can judge us now." - Claus Von Stauffenberg / Valkyrie)
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To: Zeneta

I remember Johnny Carson telling about an illness he was getting over and had confined himself to his house, alone. He said that he was so desperate to actually see and talk to another person that he actually invited some Jehovah’s Witnesses into his home when they came calling. He claimed that was the first time they had ever seen the inside of a house.


83 posted on 05/04/2016 4:05:04 PM PDT by odawg
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To: unlearner

thank you.

The thing that you posted as well as hints from others is that JW don’t or haven’t fully accepted Christ.

This is new to me and is something I need to understand.


84 posted on 05/04/2016 4:42:56 PM PDT by Zeneta
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To: Zeneta

Remember that the Witnesses have been brainwashed into believing you are of the devil and your opinions are just used to make them fall. The only way to be effective with them is to prove their teaching wrong through scripture. Your opinion means nothing to them. She will tell you Jesus is the first born, meaning first created. You can prove this wrong by taking her to Jeremiah 31;9 and Psalms 89:27 where the term “first born” was used of king David an Ephraim, both of who were not the firstborn. If you’re not comfortable doing it, don’t get into it with her. You’ll only strengthen her.


85 posted on 05/04/2016 5:35:41 PM PDT by Joshua (Jimmy is the reason for this)
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To: Zeneta
Dear Zeneta, My husband saw your post and told me I should sign up and reply. So this is my first post. Unfortunately, because I'm a new user, I'm not allowed to post privately—I tried. I was a Jehovah's Witness for 30+ years, I am now out of Watchtower, Bible, and tract society by choice. It is a cult — proceed with caution. You need to go to Steven Hassan’s website “Freedom of Mind,” and look at his videos and books. You can probably get his books at the library. There are several good youtubers with a series of videos. I would recommend “Hidden from Jehovah” Witnesses” if you really want to know what you are getting into. I would prefer to talk privately to you but they won't let me do that on this site yet. So if you would like more info you could send me an email address in a private reply.
86 posted on 05/04/2016 6:43:05 PM PDT by sparrow22
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To: Zeneta

In all seriesness, just keep her in your prayersand be the brother she can always talk to


87 posted on 05/04/2016 6:43:05 PM PDT by teeman8r (Armageddon won't be pretty, but it's not like it's the end of the world.)
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To: Zeneta

http://www.gotquestions.org/witnessing-Jehovahs-Witnesses.html

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6e5K8bUZsQ


88 posted on 05/04/2016 6:50:54 PM PDT by Abigail Adams
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To: Zeneta

You are dealing with a bible based cult. There are a few of them on this site actually. The Watchtower comes before everything to a JW including their family.

She is programmed in “the truth” as the Watchtower calls it and she considers all others that are not part of the Watchtower to be part of the Devil. She is constantly having cogitative dissonance. It takes years and years to get a person out of it. Consider using a questioning style but whatever you do, don’t go after her hard as she has been programmed to believe everyone including you are against the JWs. You also have to let her bring it up and you have to practice your questioning style and again whatever you do, don’t push.

Randy Watters website and AJWRB.org can help. Of course Barb Anderson out of Tennessee has done well to expose the Governing Body in allowing all those elders who abused all those children over the years. You can google her. But, you really need to know what you are talking about before even trying to help her get out. Also remember, the Watchtower teaches shunning which also keeps a lot of those in this bible based cult.

I lost a friend to it and it took many years to bring her out of it. Along the way I managed to get a pile more out and I did a lot of what I call “inoculations” by getting a ton of press on their so-called partial blood ban and child abuse cover ups. I don’t do much anymore as I have little time.

Good luck.


89 posted on 05/04/2016 7:07:18 PM PDT by hawkaw
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To: Zeneta

Ummmmm...a protestant trying to tell another protestant that she was the wrong kind of a protestant....whatever!


90 posted on 05/04/2016 7:16:04 PM PDT by terycarl (COMMON SENSE PREVAILS OVER ALL)
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To: Zeneta
The JW religion is based on the verse that says, "Whoever calls upon the name of the Lord shall be saved". Lord = Jehovah. Yet in their truth book, they acknowledge the verse that says, "There is no other name under heaven by which man can be saved." They admit that name is 'Jesus'.

Therefore, either there are two ways to be saved, or Jesus = Jehovah.

91 posted on 05/04/2016 7:52:48 PM PDT by aimhigh (1 John 3:23)
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To: Zeneta

be honest and tell her your savior is Christ but you don’t believe in her brand of religion. I have a watchtower evangelist who comes over every other week or so, who I told at the out set that I was agnostic. I have weak spot for people with disabilities, and he is a bad stutterer. He appreciates my listening, and giving of my historical biblical era knowledge. Don’t get upset, be cheerful, calm and open.

Here is a historical point to redirect the conversation

The Temple mount (Jewish) was not the only contemporary Temple mount. 2-3 years ago a Samarian Temple mount was found. The Samarian bible ends with moses, and thus are proto-jews.

Much of the current evangelical conversation centers on end time issues, so if she’s going off on global warming ask how humans increased the temperature of planets as close as mars and as far as Pluto? How is it that the 4% of co2 per year produced by human activity could cause this problem.

Lately the terrorist issue has come up, just simply ask, so how do you get people who love death, more then their own family or life, to be good neighbors?

You’re nerves will likely be tried, just keep a smile and good cheer, and a few beers close at hand


92 posted on 05/04/2016 8:11:41 PM PDT by waynesa98
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To: Zeneta
Speak only what is necessary, true, and kind.

A wise teacher of mine always said it is impossible to reason someone out of a position they have not reasoned themselves into. I've found that to be useful to remember whenever discussing deeply held personal beliefs with anyone.

93 posted on 05/04/2016 8:25:00 PM PDT by AustinBill (consequence is what makes our choices real)
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To: sparrow22

Dear Zeneta, I just wanted to add a couple of things. You have a very good chance of helping your sister, but all you need to focus on in the beginning is to establish trust, be loving and caring, connect with her personally. The Watchtower organization teaches their people to put aside all personal interests and they discourage independent thinking. Every decision a Witness makes is filtered through the Watchtower literature—they are told what “God’s” viewpoint is and that if they love God (Jehovah) they will align their thinking with His. They are conditioned, over time, to stop thinking for themselves and just refer to the publications for all answers. Try to be non-confrontational, and don’t get into any Biblical debates. She will feel obligated to give you some literature at some point and a little talk on how world conditions are worsening and how bible study is the answer—just listen politely and accept the literature with some enthusiasm, then she will feel that her job is done and she will relax. Your sister sounds like she was quite a free spirit in her youth, she probably had a lot of interests and hobbies. Try to help her reconnect with her true personality in little ways, remind her who she was and still is. Have her make a few choices and ask her what her opinion is on things that are not controversial, just little things. It will help her to get those wheels moving in her mind that have gotten rusty over the years. The more of a free spirit a person is when they go into the Watchtower organization the harder it is to conform to the JW lifestyle. After a few years, when the “honeymoon period” is over, they will start using anti-depressants and or alcohol to cope. They will drink “moderately” but pushing the upper end of moderation. So, don’t be surprised or condemning if you observe these things, they are actually good things because they help release some of the pressure. I had two very good JW friends who killed themselves, and there have been many suicides at the Watchtower factory in New York due to the paces that they are put through and the constant “your best is never good enough—always do more” attitude. I’m not trying to scare you, but it is important that you use caution and show her a lot of love and acceptance. I can assure you that she is not receiving real love and real acceptance, or unconditional love from the JWs-—it’s all conditional. Also, don’t say the word cult to her or let her see any of the books or youtubers until after you have been through the books yourself and you feel confident about what to say and what to avoid. This whole visit may just be laying the foundation for communication later. Don’t try to rush things. And of course Pray, I wish you the best and I will be praying for you both.


94 posted on 05/05/2016 9:48:48 AM PDT by sparrow22
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To: fwdude
Otherwise, your existence just goes away.
Annihilation? Thank you, did not know that. I guess we can say that they'll never know what hit 'em.
95 posted on 05/06/2016 7:13:11 AM PDT by eastsider
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To: StormPrepper
If you all you can do is find negative things to say about her faith, what does that say about your own message?

HMMMmmm...


 
 
Orson Pratt proclaimed: "Both Catholics and Protestants are nothing less than the 'whore of Babylon' whom the Lord denounces by the mouth of John the Revelator as having corrupted all the earth by their fornications and wickedness. Any person who shall be so corrupt as to receive a holy ordinance of the Gospel from the ministers of any of these apostate churches will be sent down to hell with them, unless they repent" (The Seer, p. 255).
 
 

Questions put to Joseph Smith: "'Do you believe the Bible?' [Smith:]'If we do, we are the only people under heaven that does, for there are none of the religious sects of the day that do'. When asked 'Will everybody be damned, but Mormons'? [Smith replied] 'Yes, and a great portion of them, unless they repent, and work righteousness." (Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, p. 119).
Joseph Smith: "for the teachers of religion of the different sects understood the same passages of scripture so differently as to destroy all confidence in settling the question by an appeal to the Bible" (from Pearl of Great Price 1:12). "What is it that inspires professors of Christianity generally with a hope of salvation? It is that smooth, sophisticated influence of the devil, by which he deceives the whole world" (Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, p.270).
 
 
 
Brigham Young stated this repeatedly: "When the light came to me I saw that all the so-called Christian world was grovelling in darkness" (Journal of Discourses 5:73); "The Christian world, so-called, are heathens as to the knowledge of the salvation of God" (Journal of Discourses 8:171); "With a regard to true theology, a more ignorant people never lived than the present so-called Christian world" (Journal of Discourses 8:199); "And who is there that acknowledges [God's] hand? ...You may wander east, west, north, and south, and you cannot find it in any church or government on the earth, except the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints" (Journal of Discourses , vol. 6, p.24); "Should you ask why we differ from other Christians, as they are called, it is simply because they are not Christians as the New Testament defines Christianity" (Journal of Discourses 10:230).
 
 
 
 
Orson Pratt also said: "This great apostasy commenced about the close of the first century of the Christian era, and it has been waxing worse and worse from then until now" (Journal of Discourses , vol.18, p.44) and: "But as there has been no Christian Church on the earth for a great many centuries past, until the present century, the people have lost sight of the pattern that God has given according to which the Christian Church should be established, and they have denominated a great variety of people Christian Churches, because they profess to be ...But there has been a long apostasy, during which the nations have been cursed with apostate churches in great abundance" (Journal of Discourses , 18:172).
 
 
President John Taylor stated: "Christianity...is a perfect pack of nonsense...the devil could not invent a better engine to spread his work than the Christianity of the nineteenth century." (Journal of Discourses , vol. 6, p.167); "Where shall we look for the true order or authority of God? It cannot be found in any nation of Christendom." (Journal of Discourses , 10:127).
 
 
 
James Talmage said: "A self-suggesting interpretation of history indicates that there has been a great departure from the way of salvation as laid down by the Savior, a universal apostasy from the Church of Christ". (A Study of the Articles of Faith, p.182).
 
 
 
President Joseph Fielding Smith said: "Doctrines were corrupted, authority lost, and a false order of religion took the place of the gospel of Jesus Christ, just as it had been the case in former dispensations, and the people were left in spiritual darkness." (Doctrines of Salvation, p.266). "For hundreds of years the world was wrapped in a veil of spiritual darkness, until there was not one fundamental truth belonging to the place of salvation ...Joseph Smith declared that in the year 1820 the Lord revealed to him that all the 'Christian' churches were in error, teaching for commandments the doctrines of men" (Doctrines of Salvation, vol. 3, p.282).
 
 
 
More recent statements by apostle Bruce McConkie are also very clear: "Apostasy was universal...And this darkness still prevails except among those who have come to a knowledge of the restored gospel" (Doctrines of Salvation, vol 3, p.265); "Thus the signs of the times include the prevailing apostate darkness in the sects of Christendom and in the religious world in general" (The Millennial Messiah, p.403); "a perverted Christianity holds sway among the so-called Christians of apostate Christendom" (Mormon Doctrine, p.132); "virtually all the millions of apostate Christendom have abased themselves before the mythical throne of a mythical Christ whom they vainly suppose to be a spirit essence who is incorporeal uncreated, immaterial and three-in-one with the Father and Holy Spirit" (Mormon Doctrine, p.269); "Gnosticism is one of the great pagan philosophies which antedated Christ and the Christian Era and which was later commingled with pure Christianity to form the apostate religion that has prevailed in the world since the early days of that era." (Mormon Doctrine, p.316).
 
 
 
President George Q. Cannon said: "After the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints was organized, there were only two churches upon the earth. They were known respectively as the Church of the Lamb of God and Babylon. The various organizations which are called churches throughout Christendom, though differing in their creeds and organizations, have one common origin. They all belong to Babylon" (Gospel Truth, p.324).
 
 
President Wilford Woodruff stated: "the Gospel of modern Christendom shuts up the Lord, and stops all communication with Him. I want nothing to do with such a Gospel, I would rather prefer the Gospel of the dark ages, so called" (Journal of Discourses , vol. 2, p.196).

96 posted on 05/09/2016 8:06:45 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Zeneta
She has always been an "All or nothing" person, believing virtually anything and everything.

First: Know what you are talking about.
Second: Create doubt. Show her; from JW sources; the unfulfilled 'prophecies', the high handed 'translating' of the Scriptures; the internal inconsistencies of her chosen Religious Organization.
Third: Play OFFENSE. Do NOT get tangled up playing DEFENSE!

97 posted on 05/09/2016 8:15:32 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: GraceG
ask her how she would feel if she was the 140,00th person in heaven but you had to go to hell because you were 140,001 because you accidentally stepped on an ant when you were a kid...

It's really 144,000...


Tell her the FACT that there has ALREADY been more than 144,000 JW's who have died.

Find out where the Organization says SHE will be going.

98 posted on 05/09/2016 8:17:03 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: CityCenter
The best thing you can do for her is love her, pray for her, and set an example that shows her that what she is being told about you and your faith is untrue.

Do this AFTER you've whacked her upside the head to get her attention!

99 posted on 05/09/2016 8:18:08 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Vaquero
Avoid it if it will cause familial discord. Take care of yourself and your own religion.

Yeah; leave her alone to suffer ETERNAL 'discord'!

100 posted on 05/09/2016 8:19:14 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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