I don't believe that there is such a face to spit in. In any case, spitting in people's faces is not my style. I have read the Bible through several times, cover to cover, both the KJV and New American Standard. You talk about Paul, but what about Moses? He sacrificed everything, and even gave 40 years of his life leading a bunch of whiny, griping people, and was not allowed into the promised land because he got mad - once. Is that loving and caring, or tyrannical? God used him up and threw him away, all because he got mad - once.
No. Moses lives. Authority is a serious thing, but not by definition tyrannical. More tyrannical is an authority that departs from what God plainly says about Himself and His intentions. In our case, His intentions are more loving than the most perfect human father. Believe me, it is not for lack of intelligent design that fathers by nature love their children and discipline them. You're hearing this from one who is exceedingly weak in faith.