[tortoise]

It constitutes a division of loyalty between the pastor's flock and his biological family.

My father was quite alright, and there is nothing about his work that caused any dysfunction -- in my estimation he did a pretty good job actually. If there was a division of loyalty, he managed it pretty well such that it was kept below the noise floor from my perspective. Your presumption is incorrect.

[Antoninus]

My father was quite alright, and there is nothing about his work that caused any dysfunction -- in my estimation he did a pretty good job actually. If there was a division of loyalty, he managed it pretty well such that it was kept below the noise floor from my perspective. Your presumption is incorrect.

Then clearly, any disaffection you feel toward the traditional family is a failing on your part, rather than his. A father can do a perfect job raising his children, but in the end, they have free will to reject what he's taught them.