Posted on 06/20/2005 5:16:51 PM PDT by pissant
You really believe that don't you? Despite hearing how many of us have successfully kept m/f friendships over the years with no ill effects, you cling tenaciously to the belief that men and women can't be simply friends. I'm baffled.
COMMONSENSE is also knowing where to draw that imaginary line between being friends and wanting more..The smart person knows where that is and would hopefully make the right choice to not be friends with that person anymore.
I've been married a lot longer than you have, a lot longer, and I know for a fact I can be just friends with women. I have several female friends, and one in particular who I've mentioned who is like family to me. I think I'd be totally torqued if my wife up and decided I had to give up those friendships.
Also, just so we're clear, your spouse can't be everything to you. As a matter of fact, one of the quickest paths to divorce is predicated on placing that totally unfulfillable burden on your spouse. You need friendships, interests and contact outside of your spouse, not just for your sake, but your spouses sake as well.
Post or President?
People that engage in Outside affairs do it because of a problem or something that is lacking in a marraige it has nothing to do with having *Friends* being faithful and fidelity is not natural what is is that you make a commitment to someone and for religious reasons to practice monogamy....
Marraiges can grow stale, sour and dis-satisfying especially when there is no children in the house and your with someone who lacks the zest to keep a relationship worth wanting....I also think because women NOW work outside the home can take care of themselves are in good shape good health when they reach there 40's if they are with a man who is just sitting around boring them to death they leave..WHY? because in 2005 they now can and don't have to be in loveless marraiges like most of the women before them had to...
You tell me. at least one of them is interesting.
None of my girls work outside the house - I support them all...
A voice of reason....how refreshing.
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btw: Stated perfectly!!
Well that's unforunate, becuae if your girls ever marry and for one reason or another they loose there husband through death or divorce will they be able to care for themsleves? there children? I am not a feminist but do we really need to go back to the lives of the Women of the 40's and 50's?
Consider your actions.
IF you truly wouldn't mind your spouse in exactly the same situation, it's probably not cheatin'.
Further, if it's something you don't want to let your spouse know about, it probably IS cheatin'.
P.S. If I were married, I wouldn't feel comfortable with my spouse chatting on the 'puter, one-on-one, with another woman. I believe it opens the door to compromise.
Lead us not into temptation.
C'mom. lighten up. My wife has a MS/SpeD, which I paid for, and my daughter is 4.
LOL...Yes I see now..
Got that wrong. What can I tell you, I rode the short bus.
How do their wives feel about your friendships? I wonder how they REALLY feel. You might ask the friends to ask their wives; and get back to us with the answers.
Are you married?
:-)
Some are married, some are not. The ones that are married have never said or made me feel they were uncomfortable. And if they are, I would certainly respect that, I may disagree, but would respect it.
See previous post for your answer. Sorry, I dont remember which one.
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Lead us not into temptation.
That is all around us 24/7 you need self control...
Jealousy from insecure partners cause a spouse from engaging into friendships with the opposite sex.
My husband travels most of the time 5 days a week from state to state it would really be easy for him to fool around or for that matter *me* but we choose not to and choose not to worry about it, if I had to worry about him sleeping around I wouldn't bother staying in the marraige.
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One thing I definitely am NOT is jealous. I was when I was young, but I outgrew that one--thank God!
I just don't believe that it's wise for married people to establish close, personal relationships with members of the other sex. I believe that it tempts fate.
:-) But then, I'm not married.
how "many of you" that there really are that have had successful friendships "throughout" the years outside your marraiges still has yet to be seen. I've only seen maybe two or three of you discussing how easy it is and how it's really not a problem.
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