Sorry to hear about the loss of your father and your mother's ill health. I am caring for an otherwise healthy -- she'll likely outlive me -- mother who is almost 85 and has Alzheimer's. It can be heartwrenchingly hard to deal with these issues. My biggest problem is the frustration of constantly repeating myself and the sadness that grips me as she sits and tries to figure out what's happening to her.
I don't know if we have ever had any encounters prior to this. I remember your name since I went to the MFJ back in 1998 and started lurking soon afterwards. I remember a lot of battles here with a lot of people, so since I don't remember fighting with you, either we didn't fight or it wasn't bad.
All of this to say is that this may be our first clash or our worst, but the excerpt above is where I believe that you lose most of your antagonists and get them so mad. This issue is emotional enough, but MS is hardly 'innocent'. At the very least, he has and has had a serious conflict of interest since he took up with the other woman (and maybe even prior to that). Without going into any other possibilities, that alone should disqualify him to make ANY decisions regarding the well being of Terri.
I've not read any of your posts on this subject so whether or not you are too emotionally involved due to personal circumstances is above my pay grade. Maybe not blaming Michael helps you to feel that you are doing the right thing all of the time. I do know that a lot of people DO feel guilty about things for which they bear no guilt in caring for loved ones.
MS is not one of the innocents. I think that he is the lowest form of life, but even he doesn't deserve what he wants his wife to endure. We don't treat convicted murderers like that and Terri isn't guilty of anything except living when her husband wants her to die.
FRegards, one way or t'other.
I'm having to go through that with my 87-year old Grandmother. She's gotten to the point she cannot drive a car. She nearly killed three people before the Highway Patrol wrote up an order to take her license away. This is the same Grandmother who has loved me all my life, a devout Christian, who lashes out at me with expletives if kindly remind her to take her high blood pressure and diabetic pills or offer to take care of the household chores or wash my own clothes.