I fell sorry for his wife and the suffering he had. I hope God has mercy on his soul. Only God and CR know what was really in his heart or how badly his disability distorted his judgment.
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The mom (who I never met), because even in her affliction did not manifest bitterness or unbearable irritibility due to her condition. Her daughter told me she had habitually gentle and decent in her youth - and when the Alzheimers robbed her of her memories, those habits kept kicking in, helping her to trust and be kind to the "stranger" who took care of her....
And the daughter, whose life was voluntarely turned upside-down for a mom who could barely recognize her own daughter. I asked her once how she could pull it off with few (if ny) complaints, and her answer was "she gave me life and raised me with good morals - this is my way of paying her back".