Where did this idea come from, that we're obliged to forgive impenitent people? It isn't Biblical, certainly.
Beyond that, it is in a way dishonoring. Forgiveness means saying this isn't on your record. But if a person is clinging to something, like a position, behavior, deed, then it is his choice and desire that it BE on his record.
So to "forgive" Mains for saying she was ashamed of President Bush on foreign soil at wartime means saying she has decided that was an immoral thing to do, and has changed her mind on every particular.
Where is the record of that? Where do we see anything much beyond regrets that bad consequences followed her deliberate actions and words?
I respect her moral responsibility enough that I DON'T forgive her.
Dan