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I wanted to update you on some awesome news!!!!!!

Well, tonight I ate at Pizza Hut with the girl that I dated that one time. This was not a date, just something as friends. But, it was incredible. I could sense she felt it was fun as well...I could only think of 2 things the entire time to make her laugh, but I managed to at least do that. It went REALLY well and she said straight up when I dropped her off that it was really enjoyable and not as stressful as last time. I definitely agree and we somehow managed to keep thet conversation flowing without a bunch of akward pauses...perhaps one or two during the entire time (this includes a 10 minute car drive back and forth, plus 30 minutes waiting for the food...and 20 minutes eating the food). That blasted blows my mind and I can't believe how wonderful it went tonight! We are definitely on our way to being friends, I can see that. I really enjoyed it and feel like it went so well. One thing that helped me is consciously trying to think of subjects to talk about, and I have a running list. That helped me out some, and most of the conversation discussion was initiated by me. Wow.

This was the best time I have had in awhile. Simply awesome!

Yo RW!

I'm a 15(almost 16)-year-old male from Central California... about 60 miles south of Fresno.

When I went to a small rural school during grades 4-8 (by small I mean pop. 225 in the K-8 school), everybody got stuck with a label. Being smart, I was labeled a nerd, and no matter what I did (I didn't always act like myself) I couldn't rid myself of that horrible stereotype.

Well, I changed schools after graduating 8th grade, and at the high school here I have definitely lost nerd status... though I'm still getting higher than a 4.0 on my report cards and my SAT scores are tops in the school (which doesn't say much for the school). Because the thing is, people don't care about that. I'm relaxed, I'm not afraid to try something new, I'm friendly. I still play video games, listen to all kinds of music, go to the movies, hang out with friends, etc. That's what people are looking for, and you can be yourself while still being that person.

A life secluded from civilization isn't a life at all. Just be calm, cool, and forget about the pressure. I know, it is definitely harder than it sounds... but you have to face your fears. Take this girl, for instance... you are just now getting to know her and are naturally nervous. Be yourself, don't be too tense and see what happens. After all, what have you got to lose? A friendship that you didn't have earlier? That would just be returning to par.

Some tips I would give you is to always have a great smile (esp. for the girls!) and always be a gentleman. Too many kids nowadays don't do the simple things like holding the door open for someone else (esp. girls!), saying "please", "thank you", "God bless you", etc., using good table manners, and just being naturally nice. Oh, and, not that you are, but don't be too cocky. I flirt with that problem occassionally and it makes me look like a jerk; forgive me.

I'm glad to hear of your success at Pizza Hut... keep us updated and good luck!

Regards,
panther33

P.S. You sound like a cool guy. Drop me a line via FReepmail sometime if you just wanna talk.