I got unstuck. Here's how.
First, I went on a diet (Atkins) and started a very rigorous exercise program. I figured being a fat bald guy wasn't a very good jumping off point. Well my workouts are outdoors so I get a lot of sun (Southern Calif.) I shaved the part of my head that still grows hair (took a while to get the side walls tanned), but now days the shaved head look is kinda in...long story short after about six months, I looked in the mirror and saw a tanned, toned, lean (6'4" - 210 lbs) guy looking sort of like "Mr. Clean" only my eye brows aren't white - flat stomach; the works.
Very important - don't get into the booze right now - wait until you're feeling a lot better about yourself.
Once you feel good and think to yourself "I look good" you'll be amazed at how well you get along - especially with the opposite sex - they can smell confidence, I swear it.
Well that's a start - I'm 55 now and life is good.
Now if you're already in very good physical condition, have all of your hair and you're successful financially, you're set, just find yourself a new one, believe me there are plenty of them out there - at least as many as there are of us.