[areafiftyone]

If you are not happy with your partner - I say be over and done with that person. Why be miserable when you have exhausted all efforts. The last thing you need for your kids and yourself is a miserable marriage. Believe me your kids would rather you be happy than miserable. Try a separation for a bit and when you are ready and have the courage - go for the divorce. I know its hard but keep your chin up. Get your life together. Maybe its about time you think about you and the kids now. If your partner doesn't want to make a go of it - let that person go. Forcing a marriage is worse than being happily independent. You are not an old person by any means and dont' let anyone tell you that you are. There are plenty of people out there in the same boat. Just sit down and figure out what you are going to do and get the courage together and JUST DO IT! It will hurt at first but gradually you will be happy that you did it.

[Stick a Fork in Me - I am Done]

I am not sure whether I could divorce, but I could separate. Some times it is healthy to step back. Thank you for telling me I am not old, I need to hear that today.

[WhyisaTexasgirlinPA]

Area, your words reminded me of something I read recently....... Years after his parents divorced, the Mother apologized to her child for any pain the divorce had caused and he replied, "We wondered why you didn't divorce sooner.....everyone was happier once it was over"......

I know this isn't the case every time, but it does happen.......

[Stick a Fork in Me - I am Done]

I got your private post. Thank you for this one too... It gave me a lift. I do have all my hair, thank the Lord. I had lost weight and was toned but have been working 7 days a week and am stressed. I know once my schedule changes I will get to the gym again. I feel trapped in amber and filled with anger and I don't want to be this way any more.