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To: Molly Pitcher; Guenevere; Miss Marple; kayak; JRandomFreeper; Neets; Bitwhacker; *ATRW
Okay, gang, I need some advice..........

Just received an e-mail from boychild #2........he is considering taking a "semester off" from college..........and would like Dad & I to offer our imput...........

His reasons are many; he feels stagnant and apathetic toward his studies right now......his grades are not terrific at the moment (although his GPA so far is very good); He would like to work for a while in order to pay off some debts and gets his car fixed; his girlfriend lives here and they would like to be able to spend more time together; she is going to his school next fall so he knows he will want to go back then; he's unsure about his major (history) and doesn't want to waste money/credits on something he might end up hating; etc. etc. etc. He says he wants to get some "discipline and order" back in his life and hopes that taking some time off from school would accomplish this.

Of course I would prefer that he stay in school............but I would support his decision either way, I guess.........

Not quite sure how to handle this one.

Any advice?

71 posted on 11/14/2002 7:42:23 AM PST by MozartLover
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To: kayak
And yes, I know it's supposed to be "Dad and ME"...........;^)
73 posted on 11/14/2002 7:45:54 AM PST by MozartLover
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To: MozartLover
That's a tough one. Our daughter took a semester off because when she moved back here from the campus she had to pay her half of the rent anyway...so she had to work to do so (I wasn't going to pay it). She missed school and went back full-time the following fall.

However, some people who drop out never do go back, and I think this is more true of males. Is this mostly the girlfriend? Are they having troubles? Is she complaining? Lots of stuff to think about.

Maybe Molly Pitcher can offer some input when she returns.

74 posted on 11/14/2002 7:46:20 AM PST by Miss Marple
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To: MozartLover
My 2 cents....

He seems to have made up his mind Mozie...give him the reasons why he shouldn't do it then....let him do it.

75 posted on 11/14/2002 7:47:09 AM PST by Dog
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To: MozartLover
Mozie, i can only speak from personal experience. When I was an undergraduate, I wanted to take off a semester. Of course, my mother flipped! Her arguments included, I'd never return, waste of money, lack of direction, etc.

Well, I did leave to go to community at home. I was just tired of school and needed a break. I made the Dean's list that semester but quit anyway for 2 years. I've always thought that I would have gone back earlier if allowed to do it "my way".

Your son has offered an alternative to continuing next semester. He probably knows what he needs right now.

77 posted on 11/14/2002 7:48:35 AM PST by Holding Our Breath
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To: MozartLover
Be glad he asked you, and then let him do what he wishes - if his heart's not in it maybe a change of pace and scenery will help him find a new direction. Good luck with it.
86 posted on 11/14/2002 8:10:53 AM PST by lodwick
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To: MozartLover; Bitwhacker
WOW, that is a mouthfull...not sure I am ONE to give advise on that tho...

How ya doin other wise?
99 posted on 11/14/2002 8:40:08 AM PST by Neets
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