[meyer]

This is right on!! I've seen it so many times that I absolutely refuse to even get close to marriage. At least I'll be able to retire some day.

The article forgot to mention alimony which is still popular in some jurisdictions. My friend got the son in his divorce (the boy was 16, chose to live with dad), but still had to pay some crazy amount on the order of $2000 per month for 4 or 5 years so that she could "get back on her feet". Heck, in my court, she would have paid back rent to him for the time she spent living under his paycheck. :^)

This ought to get a rise out of someone...

[Skooz]

in my court, she would have paid back rent to him for the time she spent living under his paycheck.

Run in my jurisdiction and you have my vote, Judge Meyer. : O )

[buccaneer81]

You're so right about alimony. Check this out...

Child Support As Theft (Disguised Alimony)

[johniegrad]

$1000/month in child support and $1500/month in "spousal maintenance" for me X 5 years despite the fact that the ex was college educated (elementary education and immediately employable but she refused to work) and despite the fact that I single parented one of our two kids after the divorce by his choice. She paid nothing of course. Luckily, she was so dependent that she met a guy and married at year 3 out of the 5 and saved me two years of alimony. Because there were some assets involved, the attorneys quite naturally raped the situation for all it was worth and despite my attempts to get it settled, it took two years. I was the only one motivated to settle. Supposed it could have been worse but it was bad enough.

[hinckley buzzard]

Your observation about alimony (which some states with cruel humor call "spousal support") is accurate. It is based on the twin principles of:

1. The less she contributed during the marriage, the more money she deserves after it, and,

2. The more generous he was during the marriage, the more he will be punished afterward.

Furthermore, any man contemplating marriage needs to know that under the law, the State considers itself to be a third party in the relationship.