I'm not sure I agree, but that's your opinion, you're entitled to it.
Too many men in my neighborhood think that they can have two or three kids and not slack off a bit on how much golf and tennis they play.
Do you really keep track of how many hours they spend on the golf course?
Lets see, the woman marries the guy, presumably because she likes what she sees. But wait, she really doesn't like it after all so she tries to change him into something he is not. I've seen a couple of instances where a woman married a guy that had a boat, a Harley, and a jetski. Those are signs that he likes these things, I would think. But after a while, she changes her mind, and expects him to change as well.
Something has to give, or I guess that's someone, and it's usually the wife.
Hey, she married him.
BTW, I'd really like to hear the other side of the story.
Its these kind of issues that make me glad that I'm not married. I know it works well for some people, even most people, but I guess I'm just not "grown up" enough to throw myself into servitude where I have to continually mold myself into a different person at the beckon call of the wife. I am what I am and that's that.
I forgot to add, "under the threat of the nuke beside the bed known as divorce.