Seems to me that the men on here were sharing their side of the divorce story. There are at least two sides to every story, you know. So how do you decide who's being honest?If you ask my ex, she'll tell you that she did nothing wrong.
Men are not innocent victims an this thread is nothing but fluff because you refuse to share responsibility for your roles in the family break-down.
Sure, I accept my responsibility for the breakdown. I also accept my responsibility in keeping the family together for ten years while she went and did her thing. It has a lot to do with what she said about a year and a half before I packed up my daughter and myself and got us the hell out of there - "The only reason I keep you around is to take care of the kids," meaning her three and the one child between us.
Let's talk about responsibility, shall we? In the two years plus since the divorce went through, this paragon of virtue called a mother has gone through three boyfriends and an abortion. Her oldest child was pregnant at fifteen, and a single mother at sixteen (mom let that daughter's boyfriend live with them for a time). The middle daughter has been busted and banned from Walmart for shoplifting, and the youngest daughter has been living with her father and his parents out in Las Vegas. According to to this "mother," none of that is her responsibility.
My daughter and I live with my parents while I'm finishing college. She gets good grades in school, attends church, goes to summer camp, and is healthy. She doesn't like going to her mom's house to visit, because, according to her, mom's house is too dirty.
Am I bitter? No - because I've got my daughter and we got out of that house alive and in one piece. I regret the time wasted, but that's water under the bridge. I look at it as a learning experience, and I got my PhD from this one.
Responsibility - yeah, right.
But the men on here were saying that fathers never got their chldren and always have to pay the ex.......you appear to have your daughter and you didn't mention having to pay this ex so I assume you don't, both of which belies the gist of this thread.
Bob, you know that if she was forced to stray, it's because you weren't a better husband/kinder/more thoughtful/more sensitive, etc...