Wish you had told my wife this about fifteen months ago when she started playing. It was the catalyst that made me file for divorce this January. She had an online affair with a minor (yes, I know she may have broken the law) who lived on the opposite coast. I snooped on her computer because my instincts told me she was cheating. I suppose I should be glad for the game, in a way, because it made me take a good hard look at the way she was using me. She even wrote in one of her love emails to her 'cyberlover' how she was just using me to pay bills for her until she could save up enough money to move out to be with him.
Sorry for the sob story, I'm actually pretty well over it now. I just wanted to add my thoughts and say that this game can be addictive in ways other games aren't, because it makes it hard/inconvenient to stop playing, since it happens in real time. Perhaps it isn't medical addiction in the clinical sense, but it is psychological addiction, I remain firmly convinced. There's even a Yahoo! Group called Everquest Widows, for people who have been abandoned/ignored by their EQ-playing significant other. My wife would spend literally fifteen to twenty hours at a time in this game (after losing job after job), getting up only to grab unhealthy food or use the bathroom. It drove me nuts.