How about coffee for staying awake? It's almost this hobbit's bedtime.
And I'm old enough and have been through enough stuff to not expect the "perfect words." It's mainly important to know people care.
If I learned anything from fighting cancer, it was that we'll get through this. It's really a sense of getting through, but not living in the moment. Does that make sense? There are ugly times in life. This is one of them.
We've known this time was coming for years. It's just hard when it gets here. It'll suck while we're in the middle of it. But we'll get through it.
As much as I whine, my wife and I are very much "just do what you have to do" people. That's why we hate committees and church budget meetings...just do it!
Thanks for caring.