My ex had an entirely different problem - he had cheated on his former wife - I think the term for what he did to me is called "projection."
My husband is a wonderful man and to this day still doesn't understand the other nutjob. Nor does he understand any man who would stoop so low as to cheat on his wife, or even intended wife. His attitude regarding both men and women - If you are not ready to settle down with one person do not even consider it.