Given our humanness, it is very hard to remain faithful to someone who uses sex as a weapon for 17 years and is the meanest, most hateful, most abusive and most despicable person you've ever known in your life. I am the product of 17 years of emotional abuse in my household, despite my best and successful efforts to provide a comfortable, upper middle class living as the sole financial provider. She has withheld sex now for more than 6 months. I cannot even fathom what a normal sex life might be like. I am in counseling; she refuses to go; all the problems are mine, I am told. She screams from sun-up to sundown, weekends until midnight. And I have two wonderful children to protect from her.
Whether I have cheated or not is no one's business, but I will say this: if I murdered her tomorrow, no jury that knew the whole truth would ever convict me.
17 years of abuse? what are you waiting for? You need to be in counseling to find out why you are staying.
Please read post #254. It's a good one.