This kind of topic is close to my heart because I value faithfulness and because I am myself someone who has struggled with myself breaking that vow (not physically but I most definitely consider it cheating as much as I would consider a meaningless one-nighter, which is much more *physcially* dangerous even if one thinks it involves less of their "heart" -- cheating). I can definitely see how it was not humorous. I was so upset I couldn't continue to read. My hubby directed me back here to read mackattack's recantation.
everyone who thinks cheating and fantasizing is a healthy option to get what you're not getting from your spouse should read "
Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Purity One Victory at a Time" by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoker. It includes women's points of view, and reading it from my point of view made me realize I can't do a lot of those things that women do like fantasizing and looking at other men who might fulfill my needs better by being a better companion, more romantic, etc...
Hubby bought it for himself and I read it too.