I used to do nursing home ministry. If people really cared about their family members, they’d do whatever it took to keep them out of one of those hell holes.
When my mother developed Alzheimer’s, my wife decided to keep her in the home with us so that she could be spared the indignation of the nursing home. She lived for another 9 1/2 years, 5 of that on hospice, before passing away. As hard as that was with three of my daughters still home, we have no regrets.
I’m sure that was very hard, but I salute you. May God bless you abundantly.