“Every difficult interaction at work had been interpreted through the same frame: the boss was toxic, the co-workers invalidating, and the environment unsafe...”
If everyone around you is a jerk, guess what? YOU’RE THE JERK!
Bob Newhart’s character Dr Robert Hartley actually helped a patient once by essentially telling him this.
I always liked that TV ad with R. Lee Ermey as the therapist.
Said another way:
“If everywhere you go smells like crap, check your own shoes”