Women and men should only engage briefly for mating and then go back to their own spaces. It would be easier that way.
There was a young couple out here working together the other day. They worked well but were having a bit of a spat. I told the young man he needs to listen to his wife and do what she suggests because she has his best interest in mind most of the time. She was a bit smug about that advice. I then told her that they would get along a whole lot better if she would tell him she appreciates what he does for her from time to time. No need to go overboard but to try it and see just how much so little would do because he does what he does for her.
Most things are easy until we make them hard and then the bell can’t be unrung.
No. It was better when men had responsibility AND legal authority. If the woman wants to leave, she got no rewards for doing so, and the kids were his. There was fault divorce so if he was a monster, she could get some legal relief and compensation for legitimate reasons, not for any reason like I’m bored, I love someone else, I dont feel that way anymore, you dont have money anymore, etc.
Listen up, ladies.
Men NEED to feel needed, useful, wanted, all of it ... and the more they feel their woman values and appreciates them the more they tend do for her.
How sad that today's women seem to only think about what he's NOT doing for her.
I've told guys I've worked with and had as friends something as simple as buying your wife or girlfriend flowers on a fairly regular basis. Say once or twice a month and it doesn't have to be roses goes a long way in showing a woman not only that you care but you appreciate beauty as represented in flowers. And if you want to ‘’guild the lily’’ you say “These are for you sweetheart, but you're far lovelier than any bouget of flowers can do justice to.'' . They're nice but they're expensive.
Carnations and Mums last a long time, better ''bang for the buck''. And as hackneyed as it is, “Simple things mean a lot’’.