I’m 65 and going through a divorce. For those of us going through this in our 50’s/60’s the reason is simple. It’s called “Gray Divorce.” Women who are unhappy are listening to women’s empowerment books, and taking advice from their own divorced friends. The audiobook “Let Them” by Mel Robins is the defacto book on how women can regain their power and independence from the man who is perceived to be holding them back.
Women will look at a narrow set of variables and apply the book. In my case, it was I drink too much, smoke too much, eat too much, do not listen, am lazy and cannot fulfill her emotional needs. What didn’t apply was, she wasn’t nurturing, had no compassion, prioritized her marriage as low in comparison to her job, social stature, kids, and the rest of her family. What they won’t take responsibility for is our behavior is mostly the result of their behavior.
I never hit my wife, never deprived her of anything, was a supportive husband, father and friend. Didn’t matter. It was my fault.
"I’m 65 and going through a divorce."
Well, it sounds like you made each other miserable in equal measure, and you should be glad it's over.
All we hear is “toxic masculinity”, when the real toxicity is modern feminism.
I’m sorry to hear about your divorce. My son, with two young daughters, just went through one a couple of years ago. Both degreed, white collar jobs, no money problems, no addictions, no abuse, etc. - she just “woke up one day and decided she wasn’t ‘feeling it’ anymore”.
She just destroyed a family unit without a second thought. The only thing they value is “their own happiness”...not that they actually understand how to achieve it. They hear nothing but messaging reinforcing the idea that they “deserve more”.
I’m glad I’m not dating.