What attracted you to her?
I didn't find her that attractive, but she seemed earnest, intelligent, witty, and was not unpresentable, in any way.
We started dating and the 3-5 day cycle commenced. Great attitude, happy as you can be, all positive, then very normal, seemingly okay, then massive downturn where I am the reason for whatever isn't right, then apologies and agreement I'll try better, and the cycle restarts.
The problem was that almost never was I the problem. She would constantly say that if I really loved and understood her, I would have known she wanted “X” or I should have done “X.” She would maintain I was the cause of her tears and pain. I could not ever get ahead.
One time she threw some heavy stuff at me when I excused myself, saying, I just don't see how I can rationally be responsible for guessing what was going to be on your mind to accommodate it. She came up with stuff like “This is our 200th day together. Why didn't you plan a dinner for that?” I don't even know how she anchored it, because we agreed to start dating on a different day, so it was some day around that that she had on her mind—unless it was all cr-p, anyway.
Friends kept telling me I needed to break it off, but I thought if you loved someone enough, and they were rational, you could fix it. I was wrong, and she wasn't rational—just played “rational,” when she wanted to.
She was psycho.
Thankfully, the next guy she dated she hooked into marrying her. Not my problem!
She got my current email address and emailed me about four years ago, many years after I last saw her (which was at the church I was then attending (and she never did)—she had asked a former roommate about where I attended, I found out).
I did not respond back and deleted the email. It was ostensibly for information on an old friend, but I wanted no contact with her.
Just keep toxic people out of your life.
Maybe her family had huge tracts of land.