Free Sex Costs Everything: How the Sexual Revolution Broke Marriage, Men, and Women

Free sex? Sex without consequences?

Hah!

Sexual intercourse is possibly the most consequential act one man and one woman can do together. Demeaning it, reducing it to mindless recreation, is one of the greatest lies of the devil. Or of leftism ... which is to say the same thing.

The incel movement, and its Japanese counterpart hikikomori, is only the visible symptom: millions of men who feel unwanted, unnecessary, and angry about it.

Instead of getting angry, why not better themselves, learn a trade, ditch the video games, Take a shower, brush their teeth and shave the neck beard?

None of that fixes the real problem which is feminist mentality.

Finally, an article that acknowledges how much the male sex drive has steered these developments, and doesn't just blame it all on "feminism."

The male sex drive steered these developments?

The male sex drive has always been a Constant. The Variables now are Feminism, laws removing accountability for women, and women artificially altering their hormones for the sake of avoiding pregnancy and regulating their menstrual cycle.

I don’t know if an official study has been done of this, but I have heard that if you have multiple sexual partners, it makes it much more difficult for you to form a strong pair bond with someone eventually.

That applies to women, not men.

Having multiple sex partners fries women's pair-bonding ability. The corresponding synapses in the female ventral tegmental area (VTA), nucleus accumbens, prefrontal cortex, amygdala, and hypothalamus are shredded by it.

It's quite intuitive: The evolutionary pressures upon women to "stick with their men" are far greater than for men to remain faithful to their women. If a man "pumps and dumps," he's lost the equivalent of 5 calories of sperm. If the women "lets" herself get "pumped and dumped," she risks a 9-month pregnancy and several years of caring for a child unable to care for itself in the wild (which is where 95% of our evolution took place).

Further, modern women can easily enjoy dozens of flings with top-tier men. In contrast, among men, all but the top-tier males would have to expend a great deal of resources and undertake herculean efforts to acquire a comparable "notch-count" (so they don't).

Hence: Women are not only more susceptible to the pernicious effects of promiscuity, promiscuity is also more open to them: A double-whammy!

Regards,

Don't all Democrats have Down's Syndrome.

No. Down Syndrome folks certainly lack in cognitive ability, but I have never met one who manifests the psychopathic evil of democRATs.

Seemed to begin during the 60’s, then the “sexual” revolution of the 70’s and then the assumed and somewhat praised infidelity of the 80’s STD prevalence, death and misery couldn’t stop it.
Now, children and grandchildren raised under that ethos are trying to navigate their impulses without any social responsibility contract. Total mess. Influx of “baby daddies”, women demanding their lovers remain with them, polyamory, sex parties, men forcing abortions, even killing resistant pregnant girlfriends....
Thanks to Hugh Hefner, and well, Satan.

PS Read the entire article before you comment.

LOL, this is FR.

Finally, an article that acknowledges how much the male sex drive has steered these developments,

100%. And smart women realize that "feminism" and "sexual freedom" has liberated men from almost any responsibility towards women or children. Some guys will respond "No, I have to pay $2000/month to my bitch ex-wife because she has the kids." That STILL means no responsibility. Dad can disappear, and all he has to worry about is a financial payment.

As a corollary, I will also say that there are a minority of women in this situation, in their "sexual prime" who are also liberated to become female predators, able to swap to "better" men to fit their changing interests, needs and hypergamy. In simple words, they dump guys when someone better comes along. I met some of these in university.

the increase in risk to the fetus is almost exclusively with the female due to the complexity of replicating new eggs over the decades ...

A baby girl is born with all the ova she will ever possess; their DNA is already "set in stone," so to speak.

Regards,

I can attest to the biological part. I had always had more than my fair share of “female problems” when I was very young, but perimenopause started at age 33. I had not had much success in my relationships at that point, so I realized I likely wouldn’t be having kids, since I wasn’t going to rush into my next codependent, alcoholic/cannabis-abuser relationship just so I could squirt out some puppies and chase him for assistance until forever.

Find that man and have those kids young, ladies. Your future isn’t guaranteed and that fabulous corporate job will just turn into another abusive relationship.

LOL, this is FR.

That's a damning indictment of FR.

Instead of getting angry, why not better themselves, learn a trade, ditch the video games, Take a shower, brush their teeth and shave the neck beard?

Ahhh, yes, when denial fails, resort to mockery.

What was NFL quarterback Tom Brady going to do to better himself? What higher earning trade than professional football should he have learned? Which video games did he even play? What photos are around with him sporting a neck beard?

A woman will monkeybranch away from ANY man due to her hypergamous nature. Feminism made it a goal, artificial contraception gave her controls, and a corrupted legal system facilitates it. She's not yours, it's only your turn.

A woman is incentivized to have multiple children with different fathers. Feminism made it a goal, artificial contraception gave her control, and a corrupted legal system means everyone else pays for it except her.

Methinks the author's profound truths expose the LIES of LIEberal Theology re: men and women precisely and very succinctly!

Indeed:the author has exceptional understanding.

One part esp.:

The collapse didn’t start in courtrooms or legislatures. It began in the bedroom. Late-nineteenth-century “free love” advocates preached sexual expression without consequence. They were helped later by the rise of scientific contraception and Planned Parenthood, which promised that sex could finally be separated from its biological consequence, procreation. For centuries, sex had driven marriage. It created life and therefore demanded protection for both woman and child. Reliable birth control and legal abortion made that framework seem unnecessary. The biological covenant could be bypassed. Sex became recreation instead of creation.

And the lack of children fostered spoiled. lazy, bored, purposeless ones.

Ultra orthodox/conservative church....maybe. But these days most mainstream churches focus on prosperity doctrine interspersed with the quarterly “man up” sermons exhorting men to take care of serial divorcees and single mothers. All while timidly overlooking the damage wrought by successive waves of feminism, no-fault divorce and a highly biased family court system. Divorce rates between secular ociety and mainstream Christians has become statistically insignificant.

“Women gained autonomy but lost security. Men gained access but lost responsibility. The ancient balance was gone.”

Excellent article.

I was looking for something like this when I tried to explain the breakdown of morals and responsibility to a young feminist, complaining that her “partner” was going to start helping with the dishes more.

As if that was the only problem.

Sadly, I see a lot of unhappy in the UK, moreso than here. I think their decline has been happening longer plus their nanny state is much more entrenched.

Women insisted that they wanted to work. So that led to more breakdowns of marriages, more multiple partners, illegitimate births, and ultimately ending up alone. Often in poverty. I don’t see an upside at all.

Of course, the children suffer the most. How are they even to learn what a healthy relationship is?

And the men lost their motivation. Without being valued as a protector and provider, they just meander through the bars, looking for one partner after another. And they don’t have to even pursue them, it’s just given.

So if the poor guy doesn’t feel like he wants to do the dishes - his masculinity has been taken away long before the housework request, and he doesn’t even realize it.

What was NFL quarterback Tom Brady going to do to better himself? What higher earning trade than professional football should he have learned?

Tom Brady was perfect. He is the peak specimen for what every American male should aspire to be. He had it all. Good looks. Millions. Fame. Yet his wife was not happy with him.

Somehow he was boring. And didn't provide that "spark".

Clearly, something is wrong with our culture if this is something that is being encouraged or even celebrated.

This wouldn't have happened in the Islamic World.

It's very rare for one of their sheikhs to get a divorce unless of course, they wanted that.

There ARE good women out there.

I had given up on them after wife number 2 (miserable Trump hating democrat). I dreaded the thought of spending my last chapter alone

Then suddenly and unexpectedly and only through God's tremendous grace I ran into the best woman in the world.

I'm the most blessed man in the world. Took me less than 30 days to put a ring on her.

It only took me 63 years to get it right.

A woman in her late thirties posts a simple complaint online: “Men can have kids into their seventies. I’ve only got a few years left. That’s so unfair.”

Take it up with The Creator.

Trying to start a new FReeper trend — First, read the ENTIRE article; THEN comment! Less fun, but more educational!

Or at least focus on the meat of the article. I asked https://www.perplexity.ai/ to provide a good overview of it. Response:

Access to the full content of the PJ Media article is currently unavailable for direct reading. However, the overview provided in your attached summary offers a clear and comprehensive outline of the article's main points.
Overview of "Free Sex Costs Everything: How the Sexual Revolution Broke Marriage, Men, and Women"
Biological Roots of Gender Roles:
The article details how fundamental biological differences between men and women, particularly in fertility and reproductive costs, have historically shaped social customs and expectations surrounding sex and marriage.
Marriage as Social Covenant:
Traditional marriage linked male sexual access to responsibilities of provision and protection, framing monogamy and fidelity as stabilizing forces in society. Practices like dowry, dower, and breach-of-promise laws provided material and legal security for women.
Collapse of Traditional Systems:
The sexual revolution, aided by contraception and changing cultural attitudes, redefined sex as recreation rather than as creation and protection. Marriage became centered on personal happiness rather than duty or necessity, and legal or social supports for women eroded.
Consequences for Men and Women:
The shift left women with increased autonomy but greater insecurity and anxiety, while men gained sexual freedom but often lost purpose and responsibility. The result is described as a breakdown in the “biological covenant” that once benefited family and society.
Social Instability and Masculine Displacement:
With the collapse of monogamous norms, unattached men lack traditional outlets or missions, resulting in social disengagement, online isolation, or antisocial movements. The so-called “incel” phenomenon is cited as a symptom.
Modern Outcomes and Diagnosis:
The article argues contemporary society responds to this chaos through denial, blaming social constructs rather than biological and social realities. Increasing rates of loneliness, reliance on medication, and meaningless relationships are portrayed as unintended consequences.
Call for Rebuilding Covenant:
The conclusion urges a restoration of social covenants that bind duty, freedom, and responsibility, beginning with family and faith rather than government intervention.
The article is a critique of the modern sexual order, suggesting that attempts to liberate men and women from traditional constraints have generated new forms of insecurity, division, and misery, and calls for a return to deeper social and moral structures.