Chruches are not serious abkut marriage. They dont vet people being married. They dont give a realistic picture of what the reality of marriage is. They dont tell men the reality and they dont explain to the women what their responsibilities are and whats expected of them.
Its probably too late to get it corrected before Christ returns.
“They dont vet people being married“
As far as I know the Catholic Church does. They want to know you understand what you’re getting into . The two of you have to go to a prescribed number of meetings with the church, I forget the details now.
that and because our culture has been in generational decline for awhile, a lot of men are carrying childhood wounds and psychological complexes...so even if they're well to do on the "provider" front -- they have a lot of personality issues to deal with.
And addictions...