Ahem.
I resemble that remark.
And my hubby of many decades would like a word...
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Mentioned community and career, but no friends? This hopefully to attract a mate. Good luck with that as it projects superiority.
She has a good job, a house, so she's not looking for just a baby daddy. She's looking for a Barak Obama type with the $$$.
I tried the Dating Service thing as a man. The biggest turn off was all these ladies was there saying what they had "horses, cars, houses, careers"; an endless list trying to project how good they were. Expecting me to reply that I had all they had and more to impress them.
I worked for a very well known computer company. Had a company car and did lots of interesting travels around the world. If I mentioned that to them, they showed only disgust. I soon learned that impressing them was impossible. A false barrier, only to be overcome by a man she would fall in love with immediately upon sight (infatuation). It finally dawned on me that these were the ball busters who couldn't spell relationship if they tried. The same I found at the bar scenes; married women looking to jump ship with tons off baggage and problems. T-rubble for sure.
She needs to do the opposite. To not talk about any of these "things". She needs to be a mystery with a smile and to turn those eyelights on when she is interested and keep the guy(s) talking while remaining a mystery.
No guy can resist this.
She needs a female friend to sus out the low lifes and protect her from the stalkers. She needs her family, if they are rational, to help her sus out those who aren't really good for her. This she should tackle this first.