Posted on 06/12/2025 9:43:38 AM PDT by Vigilanteman
(Nor sequester but these types of Help posts in Reddit et al that use recurring buzzwords like “unkind” always smack of being written by bots.)
Any woman who could make you happy and laugh is a-okay in my book, even if she smells like patchouli.
No. You’re wise. Those people are nuts.
“Sorry, honey, but 90% of what I have is going to my kids/grandkids,” and either back that up with an ironclad prenup, irrevocable trusts, or some other vehicle.
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Great, Burma Jones. This is the wisest advice I’ve read on this thread.
” best way to meet a nice woman is to stop looking” someone gets it
Women are drawn to liberalism to feel better about themselves because they are either shallow or very insecure. It provides a fake ‘feel good’ personality for them and hides their hatred for themselves and society. These are not balanced or kind people.
Think of any ‘karen’ you’ve seen playing the role of a self-righteous, minority loving grandiose woman who quickly turns vile if contradicted. No empathy, sympathy, respect or thought…..just pure hatred. Granted, not all liberals may be this way but that isn’t the point. The point is - look for an open, intelligent mind. Folks can disagree as long as there is mutual respect. Most liberals are not in that category.
As for dating - what is your goal? Intimacy? Companionship? Long term? Short term? Shared activities? Once you define what you want in a partner, that will narrow down what’s appealing to you.
Short term: Keep a distance and enjoy the moment.
Long term: Focus on the values that matter to you and find a woman with the same values. If you are very very very patient, you might find someone on the internet. But you will find that 90% aren’t worth the time. If they lie about anything in their profile including appearance, that’s a ‘no’. Watch how they treat the waitress and others. Focus on their values and the rest will fall into place.
I’m 59 now and happily married but at 42 yrs old I started dating. I was on every dating site from ‘expensive ($3000/yr) to free. Over 7 years I had roughly 500 dates, 450 were first dates only because they were fake, drunks, self absorbed or liars. (I always paid my half by the way - my personal values). I am your everyday girl who merely wanted a good responsible man with core values….and I eventually found one after I gave up on internet dating. I am a homebody and it’s very difficult to meet people but I eventually found a fellow homebody. Those with out-of-the-home hobbies have a much better chance of meeting like-minded people. To be blunt, the internet is the last place to look for a mate unless you are a hermit. If you have hobbies outside the house - look there first and pay close attention on how they treat friends, family and strangers.
As for your daughters, they are very sweet. They will not pressure you if they feel you are actively trying to find the proper mate. If you don’t…….well…..enjoy future pity dates. PS. I did the same thing for my dad after my parents divorced 40 yrs ago. I meant well but had no clue what would be a good match despite thinking I was right lol. And I gave him some grief unintentionally. Neither friends nor family can find or pick a mate for anyone……unfortunately :).
Best of luck to you and do not give out your address or phone number.
NO! Stay away. I won’t even consider an American woman at all any longer. You can figure out why if you think about it for a couple of minutes.
Been there, done that, learn from my mistakes and don’t do it. If you had a long and happy marriage to a conservative woman, you will be much happier living alone with your memories of your late wife than with a liberal woman.
For one thing, liberal women NEVER SHUT UP, and any cranky liberal thought that pops into their head comes right out of their mouth. Even when they know that thought will start an argument, they can’t NOT say it.
I’ve heard there is such thing as a tolerant and open-minded liberal woman, but in the years since my beautiful bride died, I’ve yet to meet one.
Is there a way to avoid liberals on the check-in sheet? Maybe start there...
Also, I’ve been genuinely shocked by how eager liberal woman my age (65+) are to jump right into bed on the first date. I’ve found that saying “Let’s wait until we know each other better” pretty much guarantees we’ll never have a second date.
My daughter, a medical professional, tells me this demographic has the fastest rising STD infection rates in the country.
Good advice.
Exactly.
FWIW, I am a very moral man. The only cave my eel ever visited was my late wife’s. Yeah, that may seem weird by today’s standards, but it is a big part of who I am and why we had a wonderful marriage which was rich in bonding, emotionally, spiritually AND physically. Maybe I am crazy to think such a thing is even possible in today’s messed up world.
These modern day dating rules....I swore off dating and better for it...
Felix Jacoby was an outstanding classical scholar best known for his multi-volume collection of the fragments of the lost Greek historians. He was a German Jew by birth but was baptized at the age of 11 and did not consider himself Jewish—he admitted in a letter to another scholar that he had voted for Hitler beginning in 1927. He was lucky to be invited to Oxford in 1939 or he probably would have died at Theresienstadt. He had antisemitic views but the Nazis would have been happy to kill him because of his ancestry.
Do it...if you want to ruin your life.
Lewis Grizzard was a popular newspaper columnist. After his fourth divorce he swore that if he ever got the urge to marry again, he would just find a woman he couldn't stand and buy her a house. But he did marry for the fifth time shortly before his death.
That happened with my former girlfriend’s mother. She was a rabid liberal, but polite, but she couldn’t win a debate with me in front of the others in her family (they were fun and jovial and instructive encounters).
One day she tells me she is going to listen to Rush Limbaugh to learn what makes me tick to be able to better win future “discussions.” Several months later, we meet up again and she tells me she’s now a conservative! She now took nearly all my perspectives, which basically made the debates go away.
But the world, and her family, had a new conservative.
You called it. Pure Vanity post.
This is at the same level as the I Am Leaving opus.
Date whom you choose.
If you’re looking for a relationship, avoid, avoid, avoid.
Short term fun, fine; but never let the little head rule the big head.
There are lovable liberal women (I’m related to some) but finding a lovable one will be more difficult for you. You would have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a princess - so to speak...
I wouldn’t advertise being conservative because some crazy WOKE idiot might take that as a ‘car with a Trump bumper sticker’ and key you. You’re in my prayers...
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