We used to around where I was raised. In fact, we took in relatives who were down on their luck from time to time until they could get back on their feet when I was a child. Every family I knew of did.
Huh?!
In any event: Are you saying that a cousin with two bastard children (from diff. fathers) and a third one on the way, suddenly showing up on your doorstep, would have been welcomed with open arms? Are you saying that the "elders" wouldn't be taking the youngin's to the side and explaining, "It's our Christian duty to help Cousin Thelma - but she is a dirty woman, and you'll get your backsides tanned if'n we ever ketch you playing around before the weddin' night!"
You are able to make statements like you have with a straight face only because you are indulging in vagueness and not telling the whole story! Don't omit important details: Cousin Thelma had to parade around in sackcloth and ashes!
Regards,