Are you implying that the "extended family" wouldn't inflict severe social stigma upon the loose woman? That they would freely squander their hard-earned resources with a licentious sister, daughter, or granddaughter - thus robbing their legitimate progeny of those resources?
Yes, please do tell us how "you extended families in Africa" deal with a 31-year-old husbandless woman who shows up with two little children in tow and the third one on the way! We're all ears!
Regards,
Yes they do help out. Marriage is relatively rare due to the need to pay bride price. Men running away from newborns is a habit in these parts. It just happens that aunts and uncles, or grandparents, will often step in to help out.
It is how things are managed in these parts. The women end up acting loose, and I have not heard of much stigma. The courts and government have to work to try to get men to take responsibility.
It is a very different culture from what Westerners are used to.