Then they're shallow, emotionally immature fools.
Looks and bodies fade, even men's, but character lasts a lifetime.
This is a prime example of blaming one sex for their ingrained preferences. You can shake your fist at the heavens all you like. Men are still going to want what they want. Its just as futile to call women shallow, emotionally insecure fools for preferring men who have successful careers. Women are still going to want that no matter how much abuse anybody hurls at them for wanting that in a mate. You might as well just accept that the sexes each prefer different things in a mate instead of being judgmental/negative about it.
“character lasts a lifetime”
Most white collar women have “character” all right....
Bossy character
Demanding character
Lack of introspection character
Selfish character.
Yup—character matters.
Any hint of “Karen” traits and men run for the hills.
I should add, yes looks fade. But when a woman who has a lot of options chooses a man, he knows she truly wanted to be with him. That is a huge deposit in the bank of goodwill that she can draw upon (if he's got any good sense) for the rest of their lives together. If he's a good man like my dad was through 44 years of marriage until he passed, he will look at her no matter how old they get and all he will see is the girl who CHOSE him when she could have had a lot of other men. That counts for a hell of a lot with most men.
Conversely, if they play the field in their 20s and especially if they've shot him down in flames in that time and then have what I call the "magical change of heart" in their 30s after they've hit the wall, they deposit no goodwill in the bank to draw upon. They came into the relationship with little to offer and did so only because they were feeling desperate. Later if there are any bumps in the road in that relationship, he is simply not going to give her the benefit of the doubt like the girl who chose him in her 20s would get. She has no goodwill to draw upon.
So you see its about looks yes, but its about a lot more than that too......
metmom: Then they're shallow, emotionally immature fools. Looks and bodies fade, even men's, but character lasts a lifetime.
Where did FLT-bird say ANYTHING about men preferring women who lack character or have bad characters?! Why do you assume that a hot young secretary or waitress automatically has less character than a 35-year-old corporate exec?
If anything, the 35-year-old corporate exec is likely to be bitterer, more jaded, less wide-eyed and excited about discovering the world, more set in her ways, less flexible, and definitely a higher-risk pregnancy (so-called "geriatric" pregnancy).
Regards,