[Kudsman]

Idk about the ‘vast majority’. All it takes is love, understanding and communication. You don’t even need a phone or wifi. Idk. I think if we cut the ones we love some slack and talk to them, idk how they hate us. Unless they are dyed in the wool Marxists i suppose. We have choice too, remember.

[FLT-bird]

When I'm talking about balance I mean he's already got kids when entering the relationship too OR maybe he's significantly older OR maybe she's a few points more attractive in the old 1-10 scale.....something like that. Having a kid with another man is that much of a negative.

It also matters if the child is very young (which is better) and if the child's father is around (worse....who wants to deal with that?).

Women who think having a child with another man is not hugely damaging to them in the dating market are kidding themselves.