I raised my children for 1950s America, not 2010 America.
All of them were bullied because they were sweet, kind, honest, and respectful. The kids in school were feral. Their well-earned reputation for being good kids, smart kids, sweet kids, made a big difference when other cretins started bullying them.
I learned quickly that the system protected bullies. I also teamed up with an attorney that was willing to sue the school district.
When I came through the school house doors, everyone knew me as a “no holds barred” mom that would make life hell for anyone that messed with my kids. I had no problem letting the administration know that I would sue them, the ISD, and the parents of the bullies.
Even when the district told me they couldn’t release information on any student, I had ways to get the home addresses of the bullies.
Twice, I pulled my kids out and homeschooled them.
By middle school, everyone learned my kids were not to be touched.
One fool “racked” my eldest as they were changing after football practice. I was at the principal’s office the next day. Kid was suspended and kicked off the team.
Another fool grabbed the Trump lanyard off my youngest son’s neck and shoved him into the lockers (my son didn’t know this kid and had never spoken to him in his life). The resource officer was extremely helpful once I advised her to preserve all evidence as she would be hearing from my attorney. I would also be going to the media and writing an article about it for a popular news site.
Kid was suspended.
I instructed the resource officer to let the boy know that if there was any retaliation, I would press criminal charges and sue them into oblivion in civil court. I had time enough, money enough, and patience enough to bleed his family dry in legal bills.
You don’t let the district tell you how they are going to handle things. YOU tell the district how they are going to handle things. They expect you to be meek and compliant. NEVER be meek and compliant. They expect you to respect their authority. Don’t ever play that game.
They are your kids. FIGHT.
Love your spirit! Yes, I too would never allow my child to be bullied or abused without putting up a huge stink. I only had one child and when she was young I was a mama bear for sure. Thankfully it didn’t come up often because she, unlike her mom, was a social butterfly.